Belly overhang preventing me from moving forward

[Bluemonday74]

I am newly single at 50 and have met someone that i really like but after 4dc and many years of neing overweight, i have awful belly overhang with stretch marks and wrinkles. It is umsightly and i cant imagine how i can ever let a man see me naked. How can i help this?

Assuming the man you really like isn't 20 years younger than you his body won't be perfect either. I think new sexual relationships can be more stressful for men than women, as there is the whole can they get it up, can they last etc. You don't have to parade around naked, go for partially undressed in some classy under wear and at least start under the covers. If you drink a couple of glasses of wine might help too.I am 8 months into a new relationship in my 50s and yes it was a bit daunting but I am now completely comfortable and having fantastic sex.

What she said!

Some one dating a 50 year old with 4 kids is not going to expect a “perfect” body. Or actually your body is perfect- perfect proof of a life well lived.

I enjoy sex and am worldly wise, but am unaware of any sex act that depends on a flat stomach or any sex act which is prevented by a belly overhang or stretch marks. Sexy underwear can hide a multitude of “sins” and lead to some more sinning too!

If your new man is worthy of you then he will appreciate you for who you are and not only be interested in your body for it’s looks, but enjoy your body with you.

I felt the same as you when my marriage ended after 23 years.

My current partner loves my body. He's helped me realise my belly, my stretch marks, my saggy bits are my issue not his. If he sees it, he's not said anything. He spent a good 5 mins last night kissing my belly and the flabby bits around it.

Fake it until you make it is how I dealt with my initial nerves.

Thank you! I will stop googling tummy tucks and accept it is what it is. Maybe some nice new underwear will help.

Only 20 somethings with Instagram accounts expect a female to have a perfect body. Real men see those stretch marks and wobbly bits as part of your character, part of your life lived and we celebrate them. Kissing and caressing them.
Sexy women are sexy because of their state of mind, because they demonstrate desire or passion. Because they can laugh and giggle relax and have fun with their bodies.
Be you and be sexy and forget about unrealistic ideals. Any man who is upset by your appearance naked is not worth your time x