I hate my small breasts because I know men don't like them?

[em2001ily]

I'm small, 5ft 2 or 3, and my boobs are only 30b, i.e. small....Only a handful for me because I'm a girl with small hands!

I'm slim, and I guess kind of pear shaped, I have a very small waist (22 inches) and round hips/ butt. I know that some men like this shape, but I think that men just care about a slim frame with massive (or at least large) breasts, and don't really care so much about a coca-cola bottle shape...For example, Kate Upton and Katy Perry have no defined waist, but are slim with large breasts....Lots of men adore them.

I can never feel sexy, or imagine being thought of as sexy, because of my bra size.... And that's what I want. I don't want to be settled for or just 'put up with'.I always imagine that a man having sex with me would be thinking of another, bustier woman....Do you think this would be the case?

I was also told this by a man on a different Internet forum:

I think yes. Most of ppl who say no are either PC or they’re trying to encourage you to feel confident by feeding you white lies. Just because you don’t have big boobs doesn’t mean that someone can’t enjoy having sex with you but that also doesn’t invalidate the reality that when men have sex with big breasted women that they aren’t more excited.

My boobs are a D cup and I have to say this thread has made me feel a bit shit about them, and I usually rate them quite highly!

I think reading post after post about how men prefer small boobs will do that to you 😫

Somehow, I doubt that you have suddenly decide to take any notice of any post here.🙄😉

I am on the journey to accepting my flat chest, have started therapy and it’s been enlightening. I was bullied a lot by teenage boys at school and that was really the only feedback I got about my appearance so it has really cemented in. These messages were reinforced by the nineties culture of page three, lads mags etc. I always felt I wasn’t good enough and saw women through the lens of a teenage boy - feeling threatened by women who had the attributes I was told I lacked.

I think when it’s so entrenched in our psyche, it’s hard to undo and we end up seeking out messages that reinforce our beliefs. So I have actively sought out the opposite- on social media I follow women who celebrate their small chests and unfollow those who make me feel lacking. That alone has made an unbelievable difference in my mental health. I also buy myself nice underwear and look in the mirror naked and use kinder words to myself. I am small but naturally feminine and everything is even and pert (!). It’s not ugly, it’s beautiful.

Bigger breasts get attention yes because they’re noticeable and men are going to be fascinated by what they don’t have in its more extreme forms. But attention isn’t the same as attraction. Any of us can be attractive. Women are attractive because of their diversity, I am coming to realise now. I could fill my body with silicone to meet some imaginary male tick list and I may get more attention but I am no more likely to be loved or desired than I am now.

If we reduce ourselves to a pair of breasts then we diminish our value and that of the women around us. I have realised that instead of serving men, I want to do right by myself and other women. The best way I can do that is to define in my own head what is beautiful. If you want to see it you need to be it so every day I will get out there and be proud of how I look, wear clothes that suit me and keep reminding myself of what makes me beautiful- my kindness, my empathy, my sense of humour and my strength. Yes it’s a work in progress- I’m not immune to those negative messages that creep into our lives but I owe it to myself and the unhappy teenage girl I was to become a shining example of how small chested (older!) women can be desirable, happy and proud.

This! 100%

I'm 50 now and love being an A cup because my boobs are still as high as they ever were and I don't have to wear a bra. I have friends whose boobs are heading south and hate them unless they are in a bra.

There's pro and cons whatever size you are OP, but find someone who likes you for who you are, not your breast size. I never had any trouble finding boyfriends when I was young and if you are confident and accept yourself nor will you.

Nobody wants a breast obsessed sex pest for a boyfriend anyway.

Don't. The message from the thread isn't 'small boobs are better', it's more 'there's a lid for every pot'. As the owner of a pair of DDs, while there were times during my twenties where I wanted a more lithe frame, I have actually come to appreciate the large ones a lot. Mine are not at all saggy, which helps: it is also a myth that sag and size are negatively correlated. Small breasts do sag, they just have less far to go! If small breasts were inherently more desired by men, then topless models would all look like Keira Knightley. They manifestly don't. That isn't to knock smaller busted women at all, but it is important not to say that large ones are ugly or undesirable. That is just as nasty as the other way around.

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I’m a 34B and petite body frame. Ive always wanted to be a cup bigger as thought I’d look more sexy,but I think that’s just me as no one has ever complained before.

I’m not into big boobs. From my experience those with smaller are far more sensitive.