I hate my small breasts because I know men don't like them?

[em2001ily]

I'm small, 5ft 2 or 3, and my boobs are only 30b, i.e. small....Only a handful for me because I'm a girl with small hands!

I'm slim, and I guess kind of pear shaped, I have a very small waist (22 inches) and round hips/ butt. I know that some men like this shape, but I think that men just care about a slim frame with massive (or at least large) breasts, and don't really care so much about a coca-cola bottle shape...For example, Kate Upton and Katy Perry have no defined waist, but are slim with large breasts....Lots of men adore them.

I can never feel sexy, or imagine being thought of as sexy, because of my bra size.... And that's what I want. I don't want to be settled for or just 'put up with'.I always imagine that a man having sex with me would be thinking of another, bustier woman....Do you think this would be the case?

I was also told this by a man on a different Internet forum:

I think yes. Most of ppl who say no are either PC or they’re trying to encourage you to feel confident by feeding you white lies. Just because you don’t have big boobs doesn’t mean that someone can’t enjoy having sex with you but that also doesn’t invalidate the reality that when men have sex with big breasted women that they aren’t more excited.

@Gymbunny2025 hahha no of course I wouldn’t want to date anyone like that.

I just meant that these kind of men say what they really think, instead of a PC or white lie comment that a more educated or kinder man might give.

True but they would comment negatively on any women's body that wasn't PERFECT. Thats the only way they are able to get their kicks. Too thin too fat too old too young. Too busty too flat chested. Too fake needs surgery.

Whatevs 🙄

@Gymbunny2025 Personally I don’t think ‘perfect’ really exists, but to the moronic Daily Mail reader (yes I read celebrity stories on it but no real news ), the perfect is anyone relatively slim with big boobs. That garners all their praise 😅

Why do you want to be the object of desire of people like that?

Might I suggest that your first course of action should be to stop reading celebrity news in the Daily Mail? From what I recall, it regularly comments on celebrities’ bodies. That’s probably causally linked to your skewed perspective…

Because it’s nice to be found attractive, most importantly by a boyfriend or guy we’re dating, but lots of men have a consensus on what’s attractive.

Given the choice, anyone would choose to look attractive over plain. Nowadays, people can change things they don’t like.

I’m not ashamed to want to be desirable. Most (all) people want that if they’re being honest.

OP, if you are getting your information on what is attractive to men from the comments section of the daily mail, then you won't be told. Please have your boob job. You don't need our approval.

You'll be surprised how wrong you are. I know plenty of men that actually prefer smaller breasts. Me personally couldn't care less what bra size is, if I like the person they are attached too then I like everything else. Bigger isn't always better...isn't that also what women say about penis size?

@Anotherbloke1 yes, but far less women think ‘the bigger the better’ about penis size than men who think that about breasts. I’m not saying all men but it feels like most…

It's not 'it feels like most' men prefer big boobs, but that you feel that they do.

Because plenty of people on here have said that isn't true and you manage to dismiss their opinions and stick with your own. In truth, some prefer big, some prefer small, and some don't care. So, faced with evidence, you dismiss it and go with your feelings

The guys giving comments on the Daily Mail about ironing boards are not 'saying what they really think', they're trying to be funny in a laddish way (and it's really not funny at all). In general, fashions for body shape are just that: fashions. It used to be like Twiggy, then it was curvy, like Elizabeth Taylor, then athletic, and now it's huge bums and boobs. It will swing back again - because it's driven by the media and fashion industries who need to change things up constantly to keep the money rolling in

Have your boob job, and I really, genuinely, hope it makes you happier

The thread, if you wanted a difference in perspective, is pointless as you’re very fixed on your opinions and seeing everything as confirming your own biases.

“Lads mags” are these even a thing anymore? Most people knew they were shit even in their heyday.

Surgery won’t give be able to give you natural looking and feeling breasts however much you save up, plus it’s not a one and done.

There are also complex psychological rejections which can occur more commonly, like you have something stuck to your chest and it’s not part of your body.

To say no point feeling sexy if a man does not find you sexy though is the more worrying attitude and worthy of examining.

I once went out with a woman who I thought had a gorgeous body yet she was always finding fault with it.

'Is there ANY part of your body you like?' I asked.

'I like my breasts - I can't understand why any woman would like big breasts' she replied.

And I loved them too. Lovely little boobs that hinted at her femininity - not a pair of in your face whoppers.

Just thought that they may not be that small
Go 2 marks and get good fitting for bra

Thanks Fionna...They are definitely small though. Even if I get a bra of a size like 26D - which could very well fit me - it still doesn't change the actual size of my breasts 😅On a small band, the cups are still small unless you're getting to like J cup....

I can already wear a 28C bra, very comfortable, good fit, but it's not a true 'C' cup as people (men) imagine it as....34C probably is.

Bra sizes vary from brands, I tend to look at the measurement guide. Don't M&S use the old fashioned 'add 4 inches to the band measurement'?

@hoopyvest I actually find it funny that she liked her breasts 😅 Mine are the least thing I could say I liked.

But good that you were happy with her body.

I'm sorry you don't like your breasts, but I hope some of the replies on this thread might help convince you that many men either don't care about breast size or actually prefer smaller ones!

my preference would be just natural ones in all shapes and sizes. Dont like the fake look or feel at all. If you were my partner I’d encourage you to keep your natural breasts (which I’m sure are actually really awesome) and only really ever to consider surgery for you not what any present or future partner may prefer

I have small boobs (32b on a good day!) but luckily have never felt like I needed more. In fact I’m glad these days (early 40s and two kids down) that they aren’t bigger.

My ex-DH always said he loved my little boobs, and my current sexual partner has said similar. There are many men out there who like smaller ones. I guess it’s a bit like willies where some women prefer them massive and many others (me included) aren’t that bothered. Hopefully you can be happy and confident that men fancy you and if they get close enough to you to get to know your boobs they won’t be put off.

Op please could I ask what feedback you’ve had about your body throughout your life?

As a Bi woman, I really like the look of small boobs. Saw a woman in shop with a waistcoat shaped top, no bra. could not see much at all, but the hints and suggestions of that outfit were very exciting.
She was with a man, he was pushing the trolley they looked a settled and happy couple.

@em2001ily rather than all this self-hate and hand-wringing, just get a boob job. I hated my breasts for years, got a boob job and never thought of them in a negative way again, from the moment I woke up on the operating table. Life is too short!

False boobs!!!!! Don’t like them, natural any day. Ladies don’t let vanity get the better of you don’t waste your money.

Hope you come back OP just wanted to discuss this a bit if you still want to.

It's pretty easy to get a natural look and feel with breast implants these days, it just depends on the result the woman who is having it wants.

You sound like a bloke, short of scarring a good quality boob job would be indistinguishable from a natural pair of breasts provided the implants used are proportionate to the woman's frame. Even after 2-3 years the scars would be almost invisible.