I hate my small breasts because I know men don't like them?

[em2001ily]

I'm small, 5ft 2 or 3, and my boobs are only 30b, i.e. small....Only a handful for me because I'm a girl with small hands!

I'm slim, and I guess kind of pear shaped, I have a very small waist (22 inches) and round hips/ butt. I know that some men like this shape, but I think that men just care about a slim frame with massive (or at least large) breasts, and don't really care so much about a coca-cola bottle shape...For example, Kate Upton and Katy Perry have no defined waist, but are slim with large breasts....Lots of men adore them.

I can never feel sexy, or imagine being thought of as sexy, because of my bra size.... And that's what I want. I don't want to be settled for or just 'put up with'.I always imagine that a man having sex with me would be thinking of another, bustier woman....Do you think this would be the case?

I was also told this by a man on a different Internet forum:

I think yes. Most of ppl who say no are either PC or they’re trying to encourage you to feel confident by feeding you white lies. Just because you don’t have big boobs doesn’t mean that someone can’t enjoy having sex with you but that also doesn’t invalidate the reality that when men have sex with big breasted women that they aren’t more excited.

Your body your choice!

As you said the opinions of men online who you likely wouldn't find attractive in any way shouldn't influence that decision though!!

They don't, but any cosmetic changes straight women make to their bodies are ultimately with the aim of being sexier to men. And I'm fine with that - I want to look sexy. Women wouldn't want larger breasts if that's what men didn't like.

It's ok to want to look sexy!

For me, with your frame you’d look ridiculous and totally out of proportion with a D cup. B is perfect for your frame

I think if you had larger boobs through a boob job it might make you more attractive at first glance in the sense that you would stand out more. However if you're with someone that loves and fancies you the way you are it's unlikely to change anything. And a pair of fake boobs isn't enough to make someone want a long term relationship with you if that's all you've got going for you.

I have to admit this is something I'm really struggling with at the moment I was 32B and now on baby number 2 I'm a 36C only its only 1 breast that is bigger the other is still a B cup... I hate it so much although DH is constantly saying it doesn't bother him and he still loves them both but I can't believe. Any time I see other women with lovely big breasts I can't help but stare and be jealous.. hoping when I stop breastfeeding it will be less of a difference.

I think you're wrong. Look at the hottest men, who could have their pick. Most often they are with slim, average hight women with small breasts.
Because most slim women do naturally have smaller breasts.

Have a look at porn hub. Look at the most viewed. It isn't the pornstars with the massive tits. It's physically attractive, healthy and toned looking (young) women.

Legs, bum, stomach, soft skin, pretty face, nice hair, nice smile, great personality, confidence, cheekiness, happy .... are all things people like. Boob size really isn't the be all and end all, I think you're putting too much focus on it.

What is it that you're looking for by posting here? Sympathy? That's ok, but if it's comfort and differing views, then you must not be open to that because I've seen you call a believable post a 'cop-out'.

Yes, it does seem that liking bigger boobs is commonplace in men. It's probably a sex-differentiator, so the bigger the boobs, the more different they look from men, and they find that arousing.

However, it's not quite that simple is it. Plenty of women don't like massive muscles, the typical gym-like body. Even though it might be very different from their body, or extra-extra masculine, they're just not into it.

The reality is that men aren't going to like very single attribute about you, be it something to do with your personality, body, or mannerisms. It's very, very rare, and it's probably going to be that way for you an any man you end up with too. The people that people usually end up with are those who are attractive overall, and that may or may not include a woman's boobs.

B cup here, my hubby loves mine and hates big boobs. Think I've only had one boyfriend that was a big boob enthusiast but everyone is different. I still don't need a bra as they stay put, so there's another positive :)

Easy for me to say I know but as a man all I can say is don't worry. We all like different things. There are sadly lots of arse holes out there but that doesn't mean we all are.

ill Be honest here I love women and boob size is not even secondary to le. My only issue is that I’m knot a fan of fake boobs. I’m much more a fan of natural boobs they feel and look sexier than fake ones. Just my opinion not a slight in fake boobs just a preference

I'm just wanting to look attractive and sexy at first glance though. I don't want to be a plain Jane. That won't stop me from also getting into a long term relationship when I want to.

I think most men prefer (smaller) real boobs to (bigger) fake ones tbh.

My Pilates instructer had a boob job a couple of years ago. She’s tall and as thin as a rake. My wife and I referred to her as “the stick insect.” privately. Her boobs look out of proportion to her body. I liked her how she was. Nature knows best.

Everyone finds different things attractive. I have larger breasts, 36DD and feel like they’re too big, I’d personally prefer them to be a bit smaller. I’m bisexual and prefer smaller breasts on a lady too.
Also, no one is perfect most men are so happy to be having sex at all that they really don’t care how big their partner’s breasts are 😆

@em2001ily It's absolutely not true to say all men like bigger breasts. Personally, whilst breast size is not what consciously attracts me to someone, if I were presented with some Weird Science option and had to choose, I'd opt for B over D every time.
I gain nothing from telling white lies on this front and find it really disheartening when All Men are tarred by a brush that doesn't represent me or many of my male friends. (And for what it's worth, my circle of male friends spends next to no time whatsoever discussing breasts and I have no idea what their preferences are.)
If you want to think of it in terms of self esteem, also think about your future - smaller breasts stay shapely longer.

My partner has very small breasts and although I might well have classified myself as a 'breast man' before we got together, I have never been anything other than completely happy with her boobs. They do exactly the same job as a bigger pair would and at the end of the day it is more about the person, and not the breasts themselves.

She is happy with the size of her breasts as are her two daughters, both of whom have nothing at all in the way of boobs. I think that one should be happy with what Nature has given you and just get on with life.

@em2001ily , I think you are being very generic.
Different men like different things.

I like women. I don't have a breast thing, or a bum thing, or a leg thing. I like women. I'll be initially attracted to something about them, but it's the PERSON not a specific physical attribute.

At the end of the day, it's your body, but I wouldn't rush to change it just because of some possible mis-conception.

Bloke here.
Ignore the media and social media. Breast size does not define you in any way.
There are many advantages to being small busted.

My first real girlfriend had smallish breasts and I loved them. I reckon that she will have kept her shape much better than someone with large breasts. We didn't stay together.

Then I met my wife-to-be and she is much more buxom and her bra size has gone up as she gained some weight. She knows I prefer smaller breasts but I fell in love (and still love) her not her breasts.

Don't fret about but make the best with what you have and, IMHO, do not be tempted to have them augmented. Enhanced (for want of a more suitable word) breasts are the least sexy for me.

Man here. Have to say I adore small breast. My wife is a big A cup.
It's simply not true that all men prefer large breasts.

I'm a straight woman, so while I'm not sexually aroused by breasts of any size, I do have to say that I think that small ones look better. I am a C cup and while I'm perfectly happy with that, if I had to choose between going two sizes smaller or going two sizes larger, I would take smaller any day. Also, think of most top models: they have small chests. I am 42, and in my day those huge breasts were seen as being very porny and a bit naff rather than sexy. If you asked most men to choose between Keira Knightley and Katie Price, I don't think very many would choose Katie.

Seconded. Personally, I much prefer women with their own natural look. I've had a couple of friends who had fillers in their lips, and another with a boob job and, in my opinion, all looked great just as they were before, but their choice to go that way.
We're absolutely not all interested in large breasts.

Also Rhianna. I doubt she ever got turned down for her A cups 😂

I completely related although I'm the same height as you, my boobs are actually NON EXISTENT! Yep, nothing... like I was meant to be male or something, who knows? I've gone through my life receiving the biggest load of shit for my nothingness, ridiculed, bullied, embarrassed... My ex husband you to be utterly disgusting about the way I was. My ex partners didn't stick around long enough when they saw my lacking. It's not as if I
Portrayed myself as someone who had massive tits, I always pre-warn. My last relationship who I was with for 3 years, he HATED my boobs and would always show me pictures of women in sexy underwear/clothes where the women were falling out of it and I would always try to explain, that shit won't work with me... I have nothing to put in there, and then he'd gaslight me and make me feel selfish for not wanting to wear those things and make myself feel even more unattractive... anyway.... I am now sliding up to 50 years old and quite frankly I couldn't care less what ANYONE thinks of my boobs! I'm small, flat chested, I wear vest tops in the summer with no bra (not worn one since the beginning of covid) and if anyone has an issue with the way I look, that's on them! I am not changing them to be big and bouncy, no way.... I am perfectly happy with how I was made!

Took 4 decades to get to this place... but I'm glad I did. No fucks given.

I'm so sorry that you dated such utter scum. You deserved so much better.