I hate my small breasts because I know men don't like them?

[em2001ily]

I'm small, 5ft 2 or 3, and my boobs are only 30b, i.e. small....Only a handful for me because I'm a girl with small hands!

I'm slim, and I guess kind of pear shaped, I have a very small waist (22 inches) and round hips/ butt. I know that some men like this shape, but I think that men just care about a slim frame with massive (or at least large) breasts, and don't really care so much about a coca-cola bottle shape...For example, Kate Upton and Katy Perry have no defined waist, but are slim with large breasts....Lots of men adore them.

I can never feel sexy, or imagine being thought of as sexy, because of my bra size.... And that's what I want. I don't want to be settled for or just 'put up with'.I always imagine that a man having sex with me would be thinking of another, bustier woman....Do you think this would be the case?

I was also told this by a man on a different Internet forum:

I think yes. Most of ppl who say no are either PC or they’re trying to encourage you to feel confident by feeding you white lies. Just because you don’t have big boobs doesn’t mean that someone can’t enjoy having sex with you but that also doesn’t invalidate the reality that when men have sex with big breasted women that they aren’t more excited.

@Manonthemoon1 I know that ‘looking sexy’ isn’t the most important thing in life. I genuinely hope your friends who had cancer are now doing well. One of own close family members died of breast cancer very young.

This thread isn’t about important, life or death matters though - it’s just about looking attractive, which all young women want. And that’s ok. It doesn’t mean that we believe this to be more important than breast health.

@em2001ily Many people on this thread have said time & again that bigger breasts does NOT necessarily equal "more" attractive.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Find someone that finds you attractive just as you are.

None of us should feel guilty for wanting to look attractive and appealing to the opposite sex. Despite the fact tragedy and death will happen to all of us. Hopefully after we've lived a great life.

If you want a boob job then go ahead and make a plan for that. It's hardly unusual! I hope this thread has helped you see that you don't need one to be an attractive woman worthy of love and lust by a hot guy though!

Just to tell you the other side.

I'm 5 foot 3 and I have very, very large breasts. Mine are huge.

Its not fun.
Everyone completely oversexualises me.

All they see is my breasts.
They don't care if in sad happy anything. They just sexualise me and see me as a kind of sex toy.

My dad died in very bad circumstances last month. I was walking down the street afterwards. A man shouted at me on the street "I'd suck those tit's off you"

Also my large breasts give me bad back pain.

I was thinking how nice it must be to have small breasts.

Well it's like women fancying men isn't it - now with your way of thinking I should think the height of attractiveness is a 6'2" chiselled, muscly man. Whereas actually I find a larger built man far, far more attractive. I don't fancy muscly chiselled men at all. I fancy Viking types with a big belly! 😂 people aren't predictable, attraction is a bloody weird thing much of the time! 😂

But I get the feeling that nothing I or anyone else on this thread will change what you feel. I'm sorry for that.

@OrlandointheWilderness I see your point with that post, but you’re really comparîng being in shape with being slightly overweight…. Which are things people have control over. As for height, most women don’t think « the taller the better », in the same way lots of men think ‘the bigger the better’ (within reason… or sometimes not) with boobs.

@em2001ily there is absolutely nothing anyone can say to you that is going to help I suspect. You have one body, it is more than a tool to attract males and deserves to be loved for what it is in all its glory. We only get one!

OP, I would not normally suggest this, but perhaps go to a porn site and type in 'small breasts'. There are sure to be loads of videos.

Be careful what you wish for

I have very large breasts.

I have bad back pain

Big breasts sag quicker I think.

I'm 38 and my ripples are nearly down To my navel.

They are like two large hanging sacks of fat. I hate the look of them.

I'd love to have small breasts. I'm going to have to get breast reduction surgery in the future.

I'd actually say that the majority of boobs in porn are smaller rather than larger. And some very small indeed. Possibly as pp said big boobs sag very quickly?

I think people want big boob's until they have them!

As they don't know what it's like!

I have a couple of friends who had large breasts, who went in on for a breast reduction.

I don't like all the weight on my front. It's heavy and uncomfortable all the time.

I can't run on a treadmill comfortably in the gym . I have to use my arms to hold my breasts up while running. Otherwise it's too painful.

I wouldn't go so far as to say the majority, but I think a lot of the large breasts you see in porn are fake, hence the not sagging. That said, there are men who are specifically attracted to sagging breasts......there's a lid for every pot.

Big breasts are hard work.

I'm in the gym right now sitting down and taking a break. Because I'm tired.

I don't really like my big breasta.

Having said that, if I had small breasts, I know that I wouldn't like them either.

Because it's not the breasts, it's me being self critical of myself.

It's not your breasts op. It's you being self critical of yourself.

I am a small boob person, 5 ft 6, more athletic built.

Theres bugger all of them 😂 never has been.

Its never bothered me, and I have never had any negative comments from any man ever

Now that I’m 1 child in, with a C section scar and the once-athletic body now decidedly chunky, I understand what you mean about wanting to feel sexy though.

Maybe it’s us projecting what we find sexy ourselves in other people. I’m straight but I don’t find big boobs an attractive feature myself when admiring how another woman looks

I also don’t think attractiveness is all looks either. Some of the people I’ve INSTANTLY gone for do not look in any way the same. It must be some kind of pheromone or aura they give off

I have changed my name for this, and you will see why later.

I feel that whatever I say, this won't change your mind, but you have to ask yourself what sort of man you want to attract, who will just be interested in you because you have big breasts.

My view - from the ancient age of 69.....

I have always had small breasts, and NEVER had any problem attracting men. My breasts are as small (and perky) as they have always been- perhaps those with larger breasts may be experiencing the effects of gravity now, perhaps fake breasts may not have this problem.

Both my husband and my lover have no problem with the size of my breasts - a mouthful is often enough, as one or other of them have said.

I wonder, OP, if it isn't YOU who find women with larger breasts more attractive? Because I've found it's definitely not the case with many.

I mean that as someone who used to feel like you and couldn't comprehend how someone might not prefer larger breasts. And the men in my life (friends as well as lovers) made me realise it was all in my head.

As a straight woman, I have no intrinsic idea myself which breast size looks better. I just assume, based on everything I’ve seen in our culture - lads’ mags, now Tiktok ‘porn’, films with jokes about boobs, Instagram « « models » » - that men prefer big breasts. There isn’t the fuss over smaller chests that there is over big ones.

I wouldn’t be wanting breast implants if I thought men were truly happy with small triangle breasts. I know everyone says « surgery should be for you and you alone », but really, people do get surgery to be more attractive to others.

I appreciate this post, sorry you expérience pain… I know some women with very large boobs (about 32E) who never mention pain…. Do you think maybe it’s individual?

I'm bigger than an E. I was a G last time I got properly measures.

Yes it's affected my back and my posture. I went to the doctor with this issue. And he told me specifically that the large weight of my breasts is causing problems for my back.

Many women with very large breasts go for breast reductions . As large breasts are so uncomfortable.

I also hate the look of mine. Large breasts are rarely pert.

As there is so much weight in large breasts, gravity will cause them to sag down a lot.

I hate the look of mine . I think my body looks completely ridiculous.

I would have loved to have small breasts.

OP I used to feel like you, insecure about my breast size, I'm a B too. Growing up many of my friends had C and D cups, I was envious and used to want bigger boobs a lot. Although my friends having bigger boobs made no difference to male attention they got, we got the same.

Men from my experience care more about your face, confidence, hair, personality, if you are able to have a laugh etc. A C cup with a boring personality and no confidence isn't sexy. An A/B cup with a good sense of humor and a pretty face will always win in my opinion.

I'm now in my forties and my B cups got slightly bigger after children and have stayed that way. And I love them, they are pert, lovely shape and I honestly look in the mirror sometimes after a shower and think my boobs are bloody fantastic! (Don't talk to me about the c section scar of flat arse though).

I am very confident naked, I whip off my top and bra and lean back and let my DH get a full eye full, he loves them. I have never ever had any complaints, trust me.

Smaller boobs look pert, and I think make you look younger. So just consider as you get older you may love them more and more.

@icantwaitforsummer Thanks for this post. It really does seem like society (or men rather) ridicule small breasts and go on a about how fantastic huge ones are...

I need to stop reading the comments section on the daily mail.... Just seen an article about a model in lingerie, with small breasts. Comment of one (presumably) man? "Ironing board".

I'd be more concerned about you reading the Daily Mail than the size of your boobs.....

That’s funny 😄For the record, I only read the celebrity stories in the DM…. I don’t go to it for the real news.

That aside though, the comments sections there (even if they are populated by idiots), they are people just giving their honest non-sugar coated opinion…. And the hate always is for the small breasts 😅😅

But whether you had big boobs or small boobs- would some pervy bloke commenting on women's bodies from his mum's bedroom really be a suitable partner for you?!

Who cares what those losers think 😂 they are just bitter because the only boobs they see are online!

@icantwaitforsummer I like this post, I just have always hated the idea that small-breasted girls have to rely on or « compensate » with personality…. 😔It’s nice to just be physically attractive as we are. Even though I am changing my boobs, in another universe it would’ve been nice 😂