I hate my small breasts because I know men don't like them?

[em2001ily]

I'm small, 5ft 2 or 3, and my boobs are only 30b, i.e. small....Only a handful for me because I'm a girl with small hands!

I'm slim, and I guess kind of pear shaped, I have a very small waist (22 inches) and round hips/ butt. I know that some men like this shape, but I think that men just care about a slim frame with massive (or at least large) breasts, and don't really care so much about a coca-cola bottle shape...For example, Kate Upton and Katy Perry have no defined waist, but are slim with large breasts....Lots of men adore them.

I can never feel sexy, or imagine being thought of as sexy, because of my bra size.... And that's what I want. I don't want to be settled for or just 'put up with'.I always imagine that a man having sex with me would be thinking of another, bustier woman....Do you think this would be the case?

I was also told this by a man on a different Internet forum:

I think yes. Most of ppl who say no are either PC or they’re trying to encourage you to feel confident by feeding you white lies. Just because you don’t have big boobs doesn’t mean that someone can’t enjoy having sex with you but that also doesn’t invalidate the reality that when men have sex with big breasted women that they aren’t more excited.

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I'm sorry to say, some men are just nobs.

Big boobs, small boobs and everything in between....I've had lady friends with them all.... most important thing BY FAR, is who they're attached to !!!

Be you and enjoy life.....xx
You're gorgeous xx

Male here.
Not all men like ladies with large breasts. Be proud of who you are and not what you think guys want. When having sex trust me I'm not thinking about breast size I'm more interested in the person I am with.

@Maccar305

If you are a man who prefers bigger breast why does that make you a knob.

Many posts on here where women express clear anatomical preferences are they knobs too?

Many other factors are impotent but you kinda like what you like.

@WillyBanjo, preferences are fine of course, but to "kick her when she's down" ..... he must have known she was sensitive..that's all I'm saying.

@em2001ily

I am a hip man. The defined feminine shape of a woman drives me wild. Boobs are all great to me but have no bearing on selection.

Watched a French burlesque shown in Vegas. All of the women had smaller athletic breasts and were among the most beautiful women I have ever seen.

Only you can change the opinion you have of yourself. Doesn’t really matter what anyone(any man) thinks. A hundred men could tell you your breasts are wonderful but in you don’t love you one man who didn’t would undo that..

@Maccar305

That “could” be the case or it “could” be the honest non PC answer the op asked for.

If you feel low about yourself it’s a dangerous game to look for validation off randoms on the internet.

You can read all of the affirming posts (like yours) but if you don’t love yourself you will only hear the negative. ❤️

I’m taller than you with smaller breasts and have felt like this a lot too - but I promise if you can get out of your own head on this one you will see that the worries you have aren’t really borne out.

Many people have aesthetic preferences but it doesn’t mean that they don’t find people who don’t perfectly match that attractive, or that they are thinking about someone else during.

If lingerie would help you feel sexy then you could check out Little Women, though with a B cup you have all the mainstream options, and can wear all those fab things that people with perky breasts look great in.

Op I am sure there many women with larger breasts that would prefer to be smaller as they cause discomfort and back issues.
I used to prefer women with big breasts but I now think that smaller breasts are very cool.
As you asked about having sex with a woman with small breasts brilliant IMHO.

From what you say about yourself you sound wonderful. You only have one body, accept what you have and be confident in yourself. The fact that you are on Mumsnet tells me you have confidence.
Think what is attractive about you? Think about your personality ? These are the first things which a person sees.
The first thing which attracted me to my wife where her Hazel eyes framed by her glasses. Then her personality. We never got naked for several months, on occasions I had to tell her, her body was fine and I loved it.
You are unique, your are a one off, embrace yourself and stop letting the marketed images of women get to you.

You say you "know" men don't like small breasts, but there are literally billions on men on the planet: how do you know that each and every one of them has the same preferences? Yes, I'm sure plenty of men think Katy Perry is gorgeous, but plenty do not. The world would be weird if everyone had the same opinions.

If I was with a man I was really attracted to, it wouldn't purely because of one body part. They would be attractive to me as a whole, including their personality, and if one body part wasn't my ideal preference I genuinely wouldn't care. Any man who judges you solely by the size of your breasts isn't worth bothering with. Why would you want anyone that shallow and superficial?

Breast size is not a particularly deciding factor for me either.

Confidence is much more sexy than any physical attribute!

Everyone has a sexy feature about their body. I have big boobs, small waist and a rounded bum and I've always been complimented on that by men. However I'm not tall and "leggy" and I know a lot of men like that too. You just have to make the most of what you've got and make peace with it. As a bisexual woman I have to say I like breasts of all shapes and sizes.

Petite, slim and small boobs. Just my cup of tea.

I am slim with smallish boobs and a narrow waist/big bum. Classic pear! I love the look! A guy once told me that the shape of boobs is more important than the size. And we definitely get less sagging!

Btw I'd also totally disagree with what that guy said to you. He's probably someone who much prefers big boobs (fair enough) but porn is full of women with tiny boobs. So there's a lot of men out there who appreciate them 😂

I hope that's true, but some men say that the 'any size is good/small is also nice' type of answers are just political correctness or just nice white lies, when the reality is that men would prefer a woman to have big porn star size breasts :/

Yes, it is fine to like what you like - so that's why I asked this question.

Haha sorry but that's a bit of a cop out answer! Men are visual, and have their preferences....women are too, just a slightly lesser degree. I'm just talking about the physical here.

You seem like a very kind person and that is nice, however I am tough enough to take honest opinions from internet strangers :)

If I wanted to change my body with breast implants, it would be because it was my choice. I wouldn't do it because of a comment of a man on an Internet forum, who I most likely would not even find attractive in real life anyway, just on balance of probabilities 😁

@eminthebigsmoke I understand what you're saying, that men can find someone who doesn't 100% match their preferences attractive, but a woman who does meet more of those preferences will be found more attractive....

@jubs15 It's not about wanting someone superficial, it's just about wanting to be found completely attractive by a man, and not just settled for. We all have physical preferences and want to sleep with someone we find attractive. It's just nature. Nobody wants to sleep with someone they find ugly just because they're a lovely person.

But I do see where you're coming from.

That's just life though isn't it?! There's always someone more attractive, with bigger boobs etc.

I promise it's not a cop out answer. I have been with women with a variety of different body shapes and sizes and the most sexiest of those have had confidence in who they are and/or what they are doing.

I definitely don't have a type, and can appreciate women physically whether they are slim, large, small/big boobed, brunette/blonde etc etc. Sometimes I look at a woman and just find her attractive, and the next attractive woman I see will look different.

I, and plenty of other men, wouldn't have any issue with smaller boobs, or a big bum, or a small waist and so on.

I could reel off my list of attractive celebrities and they all look different!

As a man the size of breasts don’t bother me it’s the nipples I like.

True, but I don't see a problem in a bit of self improvement, ie getting some breast implants (there are natural looking ones nowadays) to increase my level of attractiveness.