I hate my small breasts because I know men don't like them?

[em2001ily]

I'm small, 5ft 2 or 3, and my boobs are only 30b, i.e. small....Only a handful for me because I'm a girl with small hands!

I'm slim, and I guess kind of pear shaped, I have a very small waist (22 inches) and round hips/ butt. I know that some men like this shape, but I think that men just care about a slim frame with massive (or at least large) breasts, and don't really care so much about a coca-cola bottle shape...For example, Kate Upton and Katy Perry have no defined waist, but are slim with large breasts....Lots of men adore them.

I can never feel sexy, or imagine being thought of as sexy, because of my bra size.... And that's what I want. I don't want to be settled for or just 'put up with'.I always imagine that a man having sex with me would be thinking of another, bustier woman....Do you think this would be the case?

I was also told this by a man on a different Internet forum:

I think yes. Most of ppl who say no are either PC or they’re trying to encourage you to feel confident by feeding you white lies. Just because you don’t have big boobs doesn’t mean that someone can’t enjoy having sex with you but that also doesn’t invalidate the reality that when men have sex with big breasted women that they aren’t more excited.

You really are overthinking it, one day you'll look back and think wtf, I'm the same size as you I work out and I have small boobs and I am sexy as hell, but that's because I'm very confident and happy in who I am, not who I think I should be, ten years ago I wasn't but I work hard and I've learned to love my body just as it is c section scar as well. happiness and looking after yourself and body gives you confidence , and you could try going the gym and doing some exercises in your upper body and pectoral muscles it defines your chest and keeps your boobs firm.
Good luck I hope you come to be at peace with the body you were blessed with.

Lots of men like small boobs. I’m the same as you and I’ve never felt a man was disappointed with my boob size. When you meet someone you click with they will find you sexy just as you are and boob size won’t matter. They will love your slim waist / shapely legs / cute nose or something else.

Thank you so much for this. To be honest, due to the the way I see myself and believe most men will feel, I think that (well done, natural looking) implants are the only way forward for me.

I am petite with small boobs. I used to think like you. Now I am so glad I remain perky and 'elegant' in my 50s, rather than get a boob job. The freedom of moving around without ever thinking about my breasts and wearing any high neck top is amazing.

Get a boob job if that makes you feel sexy. But you are wrong when you think men don't like small breasts. A friend with big breasts said men used to talk to her breasts. Yeah, they are great for attracting the lechers.

I am in a relatively new relationship, I have small breasts, my boyfriend is really into a lot of nipple play which I can nearly orgasm through without any other stimulation (a work in progress) I now love my breasts and nipples. I previously hated my nipples as i thought they were too big. He has a crush on Kiera Knightly, which again suggests he is a fan of the smaller boobs too

@blueshoes

....A friend with big breasts said men used to talk to her breasts. Yeah, they are great for attracting the lechers.

Leaching is not nice, and nobody wants an older, or creepy, male gawping at them, but they're leaching because they obviously find the larger breasts attractive. Women might not want creeps to look at them, but they do want men to find them attractive and to be satisfied with their body. I just feel like my figure is going to be a huge disappointment to most men my age...

But thanks for your post nonetheless.

OP, if there is a body part that is bothering you and you feel strongly it will improve your life to get it fixed and you can afford it, I am always one to say go for it.

You are the sort of patient a cosmetic surgeon would not screen out psychologically because you do not have body dysmorphia (and ask for endless procedures) but are one and done. They know you have good mental health and just need that one thing fixed.

I think this is exactly the boat I'm in - I'm not looking to get a 50K makeover having absolutely everything altered, like most Love Island contestants do.

It's just a case of me saving up for implants now....good ones don't come cheap. 😥

Imagine if you meet a guy who prefers you with small boobs while you were saving!! Maybe you'd have a nice honeymoon fund instead 😉

Hahhaah. The thing is, I don't think I'd believe a man who said he actually preferred my A/B cup (they're small whatever cup size they are...30B) breasts. I'd think he was just trying to be kind/a gentleman/nice white lie etc....whereas I'd rather he just genuinely found me sexy 😅

I did genuinely love your comment though, made me smile!

totally understand where your coming from i have plenty of friends like this. I say they are silly and not to worry and they say its easy for me to say that as i’m 36DD but my response is always that my boobs have never been a factor in making a man cum. As a woman with big boobs i can honestly say i more worry about my mummy tummy being an issue or even how my lady garden feels after having 2 kids lol !!

I get it op, I have big boobs, love them.

Most of us guys don't care about breast sizes. Their all good

I take it you've had lots of compliments from men about them?

So you don't prefer larger ones?

I don't.. I get turned on by the shape of the woman's bottom.

Don’t do it em2001ily don’t waste your money on a boob job. I cannot see you but I see very trim ladies at the gym with small boobs and they look gorgeous. I spoke to one today and she has a very attractive muscular figure. I have photographed many women in the past and small trim figures are the best.

@DreamyPeachReader Are you a guy? Sometimes women say things just to be kind and make other women feel better. x

@em2001ily I'm pretty sure a woman wouldn't speak so disrespectfully about women at a gym!

i have small breasts and for what its worth I don't let that dominate thoughts of how I feel.
Not sure how helpful this is but I go to a gym and asked about exercises- from a female trainer about increasing size and she suggested the Chest Press.
So I use that twice weekly. It has made a difference but honestly how you feel about sex is more about how you feel overall. Buy some sexy lingerie - do one of those photoshoots - go with more men- I am sure you will be surprised and they will love you for other qualities.

Or even for the small breasts themselves. OP doesn't believe me (and to be fair I don't know from first hand experience, as I am fairly busty although not huge) but a lot of men are turned on by small breasts, just as much as they are by large ones. Also, look at the wives of most wealthy/powerful men and celebrity men. With the odd exception (the only one I can think of offhand is Bezos' mistress) , they are gamine and small up top. So there might be fewer men who are into that look, but they are probably of higher status than the men who like very pneumatic women.

The most beautiful woman I ever knew was flat chested, her personality was like a shining beacon.I would have loved to had her in my life, but circumstances were against us.

Yes em2001ily I am a guy. I am not disrespecting women with my comment in the gym today. I paraphrased it buy saying it was a favourite saying in “it ain’t arf hot mum” I’m sure your an attractive woman, that’s a compliment. If that makes me a misogynistic which I am not, then so be it.

I didn't think you were being disrespectful at all. I'm a woman and believe me, I know disrespect when I see it! Some people just take offense at any and everything.

What was disrespectful about his comment? He didn't say he tried to hit on this woman or even that he commented on her figure directly to her. He noticed that she had a good figure and then made a comment reassuring the OP. What's wrong with that?