Cum without penetrative

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With a partner, I only ever cum from missionary penetrative sex. An ex made me cum once with oral and once with his fingers but this was years ago and it took him about 20 mins each time. He was very reassuring and kind and slow and it was memorable.

I can't masturbate infront of my husband because I actually don't like doing it. Although I do it alone when I need to, it gives me awful backache and a headache and I try to avoid.

Penetrative sex is off cards with hubby for various reasons.
But I love the closeness of being in missionary, full bodies touching and him heavy on top of my clitoral mound, plus cock inside.

How tf else can I cum. It's not because he is bad at oral, it just doesn't happen. Even with a dildo inside me, I don't.

Would it be weird to be in the missionary position but with a buzzing vibe and dildo instead of him inside? He'd also have to be kissing me, as I need that to cum too.....it feels like it would be odd to set that up haha

I feel you should be having a conversation with him, ask for more oral, and for him to be using your toys on you.

Thank you

We do talk about it, he'd like me to cum very much.

I don't really like oral enough and don't have the right toy

It is very frustrating

Maybe have a look on lovehoney.com with your husband and see if there's a toy you both like the look of?

Yes I'll have another trawl. Made a few expensive mistakes that I haven't loved but there must be something I can relax with

Both in your vagina? As in parallel alongside each other?

I’m not sure how that’s possible! But then I don’t have a huge amount of room inside me and there’s no way I could fit both!

It definitely would be for me. I can barely squeeze in a standard size dildo. I bet it feels great though.

after reading this I’m trying to wonder if the penis has to be small or the dildo/vibrator or are both ‘normal’ size 😂 My wife is quite tight and my penis is quite a tight fit. She might say she wants more though 😂

No idea, but there’s no way both are going in! Couldn’t even do a finger and a penis together 😂

Sounds painful. Though there is a sex toy called the WeVibe that is designed to be inserted during intercourse. I can't really get my head around it. I'm on the small side and husband is large so I'm not sure how it's possible, unless it's very slender.

I’m pretty sure it’s called DVP. As far as I’m aware, DP is one in the vagina and one in the anus. Someone who knows more may come along to correct or confirm.

I feel like this would destroy my pussy tbh.

The problem isn't really on that end anyway

😂😂, has he ever tried a vibrating cock ring? Used them a few times and my wife loved it. Sex didn’t last very long but we both loved it especially doing it doggy with one on

And the rest. My husband used a very large dildo on me and both times he did so, it left me with a UTI that took a long time to clear up.

I have no advice but I thought I was the only one to have to have missionary to cum.. Most women seem to need to be on top from what I've read but I get nothing from that.

I seem to enjoy the intimacy from missionary and how I can grind back onto him to cum.
I struggle with other positions too other than this.. Altho I really like doggy and spooning, I have never cum in those positions ever I always have to go into missionary to orgasm afterwards.

Have you tried a thrusting rabbit? Then you would get the penetration you like with clit stimulation built in. You can also get them with suction too.

Lying in the missionary position whilst using a toy together and kissing sounds great especially if he wants you to come and you do too and thats what works!

Also 20 mins of oral isn’t that long but if you lay there worried, he’s bored then that will kill it. If he wants you to come and is an enthusiastic giver then maybe just do it for longer or you could point him towards some blogs/books so he can improve his technique.