To be embarrassed to initiate

[Galwaygirl]

Hello! 14 years married and always embarrassed to initiate sex with my husband!

How do you overcome this and be proactive! Low self esteem and lacking in body confidence also!

I know how you feel. Personally I’ve requested a snog every day. This makes me feel like I can gauge how that goes in terms of progressing from him or me.

but otherwise, try things like groping his bum, or suggesting an early night, or texting him that you’ve been thinking about him and his body.

My techniques are:

1. Ask him if he wants to “Netflix and Chill”
2. Text him a peach & aubergine emoji
3. Send him a “Netflix & Chill” or “N&C” invitation to his phone calendar
4. Be in the bed wearing only a black g-string
5. Whisper something in his ear, eg, “I want to ride your cock”

I’m pretty vanilla, so this is as wild as it gets. 😂

😂😂😂 Top drawer advice on MN tonight

I don’t do these all at once! Just one option from the list…

@PTown

I always thought 🍆 🍑 = Anal
so maybe not that vanilla after all 😳

Oh no! 😂 Defo no anal on the menu here…at least between me & DH, we have an agreed understanding of what 🍑 means to us. It’s a front peach, not a back peach.

Ha! Glad I posted there could have been some very surprised partners tomorrow 👀

. I do think emojis are useful if you’re not big into sexting so was great advice 👍

Men like to be teased. Send him a text when he at work telling if your wet and when bed with with masturbate with him the bed next to you and show him what he is missing. Give him handjob when you unable to have sex this will make him what you more.

If you're not comfortable with direct, then one less direct option can be effective sometimes. Dressing a certain way can inspire him to make the moves on you!
If you know what triggers him or turn him on, then you can use it against him! Like a sexy weapon or trap haha
It sends out an unspoken signal and sometimes that can be enough

Think some of this stems perhaps from body confidence and how you feel about yourself. Is it possible to start exercising… works wonders for confidence and also stamina for all that sex you are going to initiate!
Also you can drop subtle hints like rest your hand on his thigh and stroke if you’re sitting on the sofa….
But really you want to work your way towards brazenly initiating. I do it all the time, I know what will turn DP on quite quickly so I go for it 😅