Husband only shows affection when horny

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My husband of 3 years never comes up and hugs me out of the blue, he never kisses me or touches me unless he wants sex. Why do you think this could be? Tia

Ask him.

Has this always been the case?

How often do you kiss and hug him?

Could be lots of things. Have you tried initiating hugs or talking to him about the fact you need non sexual intimacy? Which is a perfectly reasonable thing to need. I think life and being busy can get in the way of those touches early in the relationship that help connect us. There could be more to it than that, but maybe that's all it is.

OP, your comments here do not equate with your comments in AIBU.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5048321-one-night-standscasual-sex?page=1

Oooooh @StarlightLady

I know her comments don't equate, this link was posted on the other thread. I was hoping bumping it might get the OP some support. Given this context the other thread reads like someone hurt hitting out, maybe she needs a little grace and some support here.