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Bellyache99 · 02/03/2024 14:14

I'm considering going to a sex club tonight. It's around an hour away from where I live. Has anyone ever been to one before? The ONLY thing I'm worried about is bumping into someone I know!

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DGConsultant · 02/03/2024 14:21

I'd not worry about bumping into anyone you might know, although of course possible. Just enjoy yourself and hopefully have a good shag/social fun if no action happens. Want to go to one in London.

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Bellyache99 · 02/03/2024 14:26

DGConsultant · 02/03/2024 14:21

I'd not worry about bumping into anyone you might know, although of course possible. Just enjoy yourself and hopefully have a good shag/social fun if no action happens. Want to go to one in London.

Have you been to one before? I've never been but I have a rare night off tonight!

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DGConsultant · 02/03/2024 14:28

Never. Would love too. I've made It my 2024 resolution to go to one.

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DippingAToeIn · 02/03/2024 14:28

I've never been but would be interested to hear your experience. Are you going alone?

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Bellyache99 · 02/03/2024 14:29

DippingAToeIn · 02/03/2024 14:28

I've never been but would be interested to hear your experience. Are you going alone?

Yep all alone unless I bottle it!

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DGConsultant · 02/03/2024 14:36

Don't bottle It, I mean do if you want to, I'd be fairly shitting myself too or will be if I ever do go to one, but then you think of all the fun, and just try and relax.

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DippingAToeIn · 02/03/2024 15:29

Bellyache99 · 02/03/2024 14:29

Yep all alone unless I bottle it!

How does it work when you get there? I'm intrigued!

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Maccar305 · 02/03/2024 15:49

I've escorted a few ladies to clubs. They were single and wanted "support," if only to walk through the door! They'd approached me via fabswingers although I knew one in RL who knew I attended occasionally. I acted as their social friend only....(age difference) It's worth chatting to others (m&f) and going together, looking out for each other.
They say the best room to meet people at a party is the kitchen....at a club it's definitely the hot tub. It's a great leveller and the banter is usually flowing....
Go for it !

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Bellyache99 · 02/03/2024 16:41

DippingAToeIn · 02/03/2024 15:29

How does it work when you get there? I'm intrigued!

Not sure 😅

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OfcourseitsaNC · 02/03/2024 19:27

Huge cojones.

I admire you.

Have fun.

And report back please.

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MySXforumnn · 02/03/2024 22:20

Its on our bucket list. Have a great time, enjoy and I hope you feel able to report back!

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Confused118 · 02/03/2024 23:49

let us know how it went!!!

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Runningoutofusernamestochange · 03/03/2024 19:56

Well, did you? Was it all you’d hoped for?

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GentlemanJay · 04/03/2024 23:53

I've been to 18. Here and abroad. Lol.

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Whatsmyusername1235 · 07/03/2024 22:16

DGConsultant · 02/03/2024 14:21

I'd not worry about bumping into anyone you might know, although of course possible. Just enjoy yourself and hopefully have a good shag/social fun if no action happens. Want to go to one in London.

I really want to go to one and to one in London too

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livicpl · 10/03/2024 10:10

We have been to a couple. We worried about meeting someone we now. At the end of the day we are all there for the same reason.

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Tallguy202 · 12/03/2024 10:55

Just go and enjoy it. They are great places.

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Jimc1984 · 17/03/2024 10:47

Where are these sex clubs. I need to seriously let off steam!!

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PinotPony · 18/03/2024 20:53

Hope you decided to go OP, and had a great time.

I've been to a fair few sex parties / clubs. Torture Garden, KlubVerboten, Killing Kittens to name but a few. They're all very different but all have strict rules and codes of conduct, particularly around consent and safety.

Personally, I feel safer in a sex club than a typical dance club where men think they have carte blanche to touch you without permission. At sex-positive clubs, most attendees understand and respect boundaries.

My advice would always be:

  • Join pre-party chat groups to get to know others first. Go to pre-drinks to relax in a vanilla setting first.
  • Don't get pissed. Drink and consent don't mix.
  • Go with no expectations. Let things evolve naturally on the night. View it as a social event with the possibility of extra fun.
  • Subject to dress code, wear something that makes you feel amazing. But do not wear anything you're not willing to lose, ruin, or wash at 60 degrees. Keep your shoes on at all times!
  • Always obtain consent before touching another person or joining a group. Don't be a dick.
  • Don't take it personally if someone says no. You may just not be what they're looking for that night. Be gracious.
  • Don't wander around staring at people. The "wanking dead" are not popular!
  • Don't interrupt someone's scene. It's really fucking rude!
  • Take a bag of condoms, wet wipes and breath mints. Change of clothes for taxi ride / late night McDonald's.
  • After parties are fantastic, especially if you've all taken over one floor of a hotel...
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