First threesome- advice needed!

[NervousButExcited]

I've namechanged but have been on Mumsnet for years.

I'm having my first threesome (MMF) this coming week and I am so nervous! My sex life has been pretty vanilla up to this point so this is a big, big deal to me.

Any tips, advice etc from those more experienced, male or female, would be greatly appreciated!

Reminds me of the time in Gavin & Stacey when Dawn & Pete are out for a meal, meeting their potential 3rd party and they bump into Gavin's Mum and co 🤣

Ha ha. Yes they was funny. Always make sure you do the deed away from home area.

like I said we were stupid doing it so close to home but it worked. The thrill of watching the younger guy stare at my buttocks every time I walked up the office afterwards was a turn on I have to say ha ha

Did anyone else from work ever find out or was it top secret?

Top secret. I picked him as although 28 was very mature and discreet.

A total stranger can sometimes be more awkward than a good friend. A good friend is someone you can trust and you know at least a little about them. A total stranger could make things awkward, during and afterwards. Plus a total stranger is watching you having sex. In an unusual situation, where’s the chemistry? It’s not like having sex with someone on a first date which is driven by passion.

When the ex and I had our 3sums we knew the 3rd party involved very well
There was no awkwardness after with either
We had sat and discussed boundaries and rules with the first one and it all went fantastic a lot of fun was had and we all enjoyed it
The 2nd time it was with a different 3rd person and it just kind of happened with no planning we all had fun however it wasn't as good as the first one

I think it's all about chemistry, in our case the guy was someone who clearly fancied me. I think my OH had told him to he was free to get 'it out of his system' and all of us enjoyed it, was loads better than I thought and having some trust in the other guy so I was able to be honest about what we liked was great. Not for the faint hearted though, giving 'all' of yourself to someone is a big thing.

We dabble in writing erotic fiction. We wrote the whole scenario as a role play once we had agreed to do it and then acted out. It was amazing in every shape and form

i thought at some point we would erupt into giggles but it just went like clockwork.

so so deeply erotic!!!

NC - @Shropshiregirl51 I would love to read that. Currently negotiating our first 3some. There’s so much to think about and consider

Ha ha. Anytime hun….

go at your pace. You can always go further next time, but can’t undo what’s done.

If I say so myself it was a hot write and a hot read ha ha!!