Wits end with sex life 🙈

[Deanlad1980]

Just don’t know what to do or if I’m even being selfish/expecting.
married to wife for 12 years with 2 kids 3 & 4.
im 43 and wife 42.

kids kinda made us lose our way for a few years but we’re making effort to spend quality time together and it’s great as we really do get on well.

our life is above average and we live a high quality of life.

the only negative is our sexlife….she just won’t try anything new at all.
all she wants is missionary, doggy and blowjob.
I’m not ungrateful but I want to try more and she’s made clear that’s all she likes THATS IT.

id never cheat but I can’t help fantasise.

im not being selfish as I mainly want to pleasure her.

I’ve tried all angles and treat my wife well and respect her massivly

You’ve had advice on this on here before. You’ll probably just get the same responses.

What exactly exactly is it that you want to do? Fantasy is fine, in fact it's often better than the real thing.

What's wrong with missionary, doggy and oral? Just because they are fairly " vanilla" and not kinky doesn't mean they are boring or bad. Not everyone is into doing weird stuff like pissing on each other or going to sex parties. What is it you want? If it's something like anal or anything I've said above you're unreasonable.

I'm in a similar boat but the opposite way around. My partner won't try anything new, he just likes basic sex and that's it. Whereas I'm way more adventurous and need more but he's just not interested in all that 🙈 Totally understand how you feel!

You‘ve posted before and tbh some of your posts are vile. I imagine you’re coming across as a sex pest to your wife, going on at her, making her feel boring and inadequate, trying to get people on your side on mumsnet and then showing her the responses. I’d find a man doing that repulsive. You’ve called her a miserable git on here. You can’t expect her to be attracted to you with these behaviours. Also, there’s a lot of fantasists on here, so listening to it and then comparing your own life to it is ridiculous.

If your posts are even real, and not just looking for people to share sexual stuff, and you’re not happy, just leave.

Yes you are right, I remember this poster now. If it's real I feel so sorry for the woman who's putting up with this man. Fuck that.

You say that you have a great life and great relationship yet complain that the only intimacy you get is in a way that your partner is comfortable and enjoys?

Stop watching porn and thinking that you're missing out

On your other thread you say you've only had once this year. I'd be more concerned about that rather than you being concerned over the position.