Hair Pulling during Sex

Jayne700 · 2023-08-09T05:10:05+00:00

Hi Folks I am just worried that I might be a bit weird I absolutely love having sex in the doggy position and getting my patrner to pull my hair ( very hard actually ) so my head is tilted right back Does anyone else do this ? My partners have never instigated this and I have actually asked them to do it Some have refused ( as they think it's strange ) but most have gone along with it when I tell them I get more powerful orgasms that way - but I have to encourage them to pull harder

Namechangednorth · 09/08/2023 07:46

If this is what you enjoy, that's fine. Nothing weird as long as both consent.

overdalexx · 09/08/2023 09:19

as namechange says nothing at all to worry about if you get off on it and have willing partners. If you do get off on it, can't think why a partner would refuse to be honest.
How do you control the amount of pulling though? doesn't it ever hurt in a bad way? Any hair ever come out?

Hollyisblue · 09/08/2023 12:19

Many of us enjoy a Rough Sex session. If I am in the mood for it, then a bit of pain is enjoyable.
There have been times when I have to encourage him to be rougher. He is such a sweetie and wouldn't hurt me really. Asking in-itself can turn me on more.

GigiAnnna · 09/08/2023 13:26

I love it during doggy style sex. He doesn't do it hard enough to hurt but I like him asserting his dominance. It seems to make the sex feel deeper as well though I don't know if that's just in my head.

namechangesexboard · 09/08/2023 14:35

OMG yes. Love this.

daytriptovulcan · 09/08/2023 20:18

You,re not unique 😁

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Jayne700 · 10/08/2023 05:52

Thanks for all the replies
TBH None of my hair has been pulled out - I don't like it being pulled that hard :)
Good to know I'm not the only one !

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Zanatdy · 10/08/2023 06:32

Guy I was seeing earlier this year liked to do that to my hair and I loved it. Never really had a guy do that before, he was quite forceful with it too, broke my necklace once! What I found the biggest turn on was when he switched from loving ‘making love’ to full on rough! Really turned me on. Ah jeez. Maybe seeing him again later this month, now I’m thinking of rough sex!

Zanatdy · 10/08/2023 06:37

overdalexx · 09/08/2023 09:19

as namechange says nothing at all to worry about if you get off on it and have willing partners. If you do get off on it, can't think why a partner would refuse to be honest.
How do you control the amount of pulling though? doesn't it ever hurt in a bad way? Any hair ever come out?

in my instance if I felt he was getting a bit too rough I’d just gently move his hands away or I’d just say go easy, he did get a bit carried away at times so I didn’t feel like I shouldn’t stop him if it was hurting me, I always did, it didn’t kill the mood. He would sometimes whisper ‘sorry’ as he would realise then he was hurting me.

brassmonkeywife · 10/08/2023 10:45

My DP, normally a gentle but enthusiastic guy, asked if he could give my ponytail a tug during doggie (he’s very polite!) and I said ‘sure’! I enjoyed the feeling of restraint during penetration and we’ve gone beyond a ‘tug’ - he sometimes hold on as if he’s got the reins of a bucking bronco! But we do have a safety word which means he HAS to let go immediately if I’m feeling that he’s going to far or I’m in pain - you’re pretty vulnerable in this situation. So I’d say if you enjoy it, keep it in your repertoire, but DO have a safety word you can call out if he should release you that moment. Ride ‘em cowboy!!

myNewName21 · 10/08/2023 12:01

I don’t think this is particularly uncommon, current partner likes her hair pulled ( not tugged) during sex

Sweptwindy17 · 10/08/2023 12:32

My partner absolutely loves having her hair pulled during doggie, and that's head right back. She starts moaning as soon as my hands start running through her hair. It's something about the back arch that increases her arousal.

But guys, for heavens sake, if you're going to do it, it's a pull from the root of the hair, not the end or middle!

shortnotsweet1 · 10/08/2023 17:04

Sweptwindy17 · 10/08/2023 12:32

My partner absolutely loves having her hair pulled during doggie, and that's head right back. She starts moaning as soon as my hands start running through her hair. It's something about the back arch that increases her arousal.

But guys, for heavens sake, if you're going to do it, it's a pull from the root of the hair, not the end or middle!

I think it's personal preference. If my boyfriend grabbed my hair and pulled by the roots I'd punch him 🤣 ouch!! I don't mind a hand through the hair and grab the root if he keeps his hand there in the grab position but if he then pulled...my god that would be painful. I love him pulling on my ponytail / plaits as that pulls my head right back...still painful (but the kinda pain I like!). It's more a restraint pain, I couldn't move my head if I tried as he holds it so tight and that is hot. I guess everyone's different!

overdalexx · 10/08/2023 17:50

Sweptwindy17 · 10/08/2023 12:32

My partner absolutely loves having her hair pulled during doggie, and that's head right back. She starts moaning as soon as my hands start running through her hair. It's something about the back arch that increases her arousal.

But guys, for heavens sake, if you're going to do it, it's a pull from the root of the hair, not the end or middle!

can i innocently ask why?
and I'd be interested in other takes on this.
never having done with anyone never given it any thought, but willing to learn.

MaxTalk · 10/08/2023 18:50

Yep, love hair pulling. Can be very wild if you know what you are doing.

myNewName21 · 10/08/2023 19:03

overdalexx · 10/08/2023 17:50

can i innocently ask why?
and I'd be interested in other takes on this.
never having done with anyone never given it any thought, but willing to learn.

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With my partner is not a “pull” as such, is more like getting some of her hair ( a good amount at the base), and using slight but constant pressure

I have read that the scalp is full of nerve endings , and this where the excitement comes from

JobChangeSoonPlease · 13/08/2023 09:07

Love this too, but sometimes I feel like I'm struggling to breathe/swallow as my neck is too straight up. Anyone else find this?

shortnotsweet1 · 13/08/2023 10:05

JobChangeSoonPlease · 13/08/2023 09:07

Love this too, but sometimes I feel like I'm struggling to breathe/swallow as my neck is too straight up. Anyone else find this?

Yes and then I make a funny noise attempting to swallow 🤣🤣

Zanatdy · 13/08/2023 14:39

JobChangeSoonPlease · 13/08/2023 09:07

Love this too, but sometimes I feel like I'm struggling to breathe/swallow as my neck is too straight up. Anyone else find this?

Yes it can feel like that if pulled too hard, especially during doggie, if the puller gets a bit carried away

ChezzD · 17/08/2023 22:46

Yep I'm the same, like it hard and rough 😅

AnotherVice · 29/08/2023 15:40

I appreciate this is rare but I work in a healthcare field and encountered a woman who had her neck broken in this way and subsequently suffered a stroke and has life-altering disabilities. I wouldn't think it was worth the risk.

GigiAnnna · 29/08/2023 15:50

AnotherVice · 29/08/2023 15:40

I appreciate this is rare but I work in a healthcare field and encountered a woman who had her neck broken in this way and subsequently suffered a stroke and has life-altering disabilities. I wouldn't think it was worth the risk.

That's a bit of an extreme example. My husband is not that heavy handed and would never get close to causing me anything more than a tingly type of pain ( at my request) so for me personally I'll continue to take the risk. I suppose that's why you should only ever do slightly risky stuff with people who have your best interests at heart and who you trust implicitly.

AnotherVice · 29/08/2023 17:03

@GigiAnnna It was done by her husband, a normal couple in their late forties/early fifties. They probably didn't think it was extreme either.

Tunnocksmallow · 02/09/2023 22:49

My partner wraps his fingers in my hair at the root as we are kissing, and pulls hard. I love it. Especially during foreplay, where he will stop doing anything to me, except holding my head back by my hair. And it makes me moan like anything.
but always by the root! And we always listen to each other.