Wow what happened to me tonight while getting a regular massage?!

[Namechanged4this2023]

Longtime user of MN but have NC for this as previous username was very outing.
I've been for a full body massage tonight somewhere I go maybe 3x a year. The lady is a little older than me and I have seen her for maybe 4 years or so now. We get on fine (for the 3 hours a year I see her!)
I was wearing a thong tonight and she initially was massaging the front of my legs. I had a sheet over my top half and just about covering my underwear. I felt like she was going pretty high up but didn't think too much of it.
Then I flipped onto my tummy and she did the back of my legs. This time I was aware the sheet was higher and she seemed to be parting my legs a little. As she was rubbing my thighs she was 'catching' my crotch with the tops of her fingers or the side of her hand. It didn't feel awkward at all. We also didn't acknowledge anything.
But I was getting so turned on I am pretty sure she could hear how wet I was as she was massaging me, which makes me wonder if she was turned on too and of that's why she did it?
The whole thing was just odd. I'm not complaining... I got 10 minutes longer than normal too! I was her last client. And the end was fine, she did my back and was very professional as I left. It hasn't put me off going to her.
I am married with young children but having a girl on girl experience has always been a huge fantastic of mine. This has now sealed it for me, but my husband would NEVER agree. He's a massive prude with anything like that. So I guess this will just have to stay in the memory bank.
Anyway... just kind of needed to get it off my chest as for obvious reasons I'd not talk to anyone about this IRL.

I think many women have this fantasy and some later go on to explore it, or it remains a fantasy. Is it something you can raise with your DH and see what he says?

Honestly I'd love to... but I think he would say I'm never going back there!
I've talked dirty to him before and gone down the "I'm with a girl and your there" route and he didn't respond. Then last summer I was drunk and told him it was my fantasy and he was really really unhappy about it. Said cheating is cheating girl or guy and he couldn't understand why I would ever want to think about anyone else in that way 🤷‍♀️ we have been together since I was a teen, I feel there's a lot of stuff I never got out of my system.

I'd probably book myself in for another massage pronto 😬

Thought about this but also conscious of the fact I'm not due back for another 4 months or so 😁 and I don't want her to think I'm back specifically for that reason or make it weird if that makes sense?

It wouldn't surprise me if she enjoyed it just as much as you.

I probably would make an excuse of a sore back or something to make an appointment 😂

Or its all in your head and it was just a massage.
and him not wanting you to shag other women doesnt make him a prude any more than you not wanting him to shag other men makes you a prude

Are you OK??

Yep
and probably a lot better than you

Why dont you take him with you next time
maybe you both get a happy ending

You're odd , thanks for the input though 🫡🤷‍♀️

Why do you go only every 4 months? 2-3 times a month I am having a massage -
It's my chosen expense in life !!

Your fella is missing a lot of potential fun that you could share together.

I’d rather have her for myself, if I had the opportunity to experiment with another woman. I don’t think men have to be included in girl on girl fun.

It’s not odd to have a difference of opinion. 😁

I’d also like to know how you can “hear” when someone is “wet” or am I missing something really obvious? 😁

If that had been me, I would phone her invite her for coffee or drink after work and chat to find if it was an 'accident'.
What a nice way to meet.

I can remember having a sports massage several years ago, it was the middle of July and over 30c. The massesuse said to me as it’s so hot if you’re okay with it I’ll leave off the top sheet, and I said yep sure I don’t mind.
when she got to my legs and began massaging my hip flexors and getting quite close I started to get really turned on I thought it was going to be very obvious! 😲
funnily enough I got an extra 10mins as well. There was no awkwardness or anything but Im sure she knew.

I’d also like to know how you can “hear” when someone is “wet” or am I missing something really obvious?

Im glad it’s not just me who was wondering this!

Shame your OH isn't on same page as you with regards to your sexual desires as this scenario could spice up your relationship otherwise even if it's just through fantasy roleplay in the bedroom. Maybe he needs reassurance you're not going to run off with another woman and leave him. Presume your sex life is otherwise ok.

I guess you'll be going again for those massage appointments in the thong to get your money's worth with an extra 10 minutes!

I’d also like to know how you can “hear” when someone is “wet” or am I missing something really obvious?

Really?! Squelching/ slapping sound whilst massaging I'm assuming!

Exactly this 🫢

You are not doing anything wrong, just tell her next time that you really liked how sensual last time was and if she could do that again. See what happens.

@Namechanged4this2023 Glad you enjoyed your massage. My feelings are that some, gifted masseurs/masseuses get off on their ability to push our buttons.
I've never had the same experience as you, but one lady performing a neck, shoulder and back massage made me feel like a jelly, I was so laid back and relaxed. Truly magical.

Genuine question, which I don't know the answer to:

You went in for a regular massage – that was your contract with the masseuse. She raised the sheet higher than expected, parted your legs and stroked your crotch, without clearing it with you first. Isn't that sexual assault?

As it happens, you enjoyed it. But another person might have found it inappropriate or violating. If it had been a male masseur, would you have felt differently?

I guess all massage is a blurred area: you're giving permission for physical contact. But you hadn't given permission for that – which is surely a definition of assault?

My feelings are that some, gifted masseurs/masseuses get off on their ability to push our buttons.

Yuk.

A good friend of mine is a masseur and has had a few people over the years that have tried to say this sort of shit to her. It’s not true. They’re doing a job.

You went in for a regular massage – that was your contract with the masseuse. She raised the sheet higher than expected, parted your legs and stroked your crotch, without clearing it with you first. Isn't that sexual assault?

Yes, it is. And if OP believes this actually happened, they should consider reporting it.

Tbh though, this section of mumsnet is so full of unsavoury types that unfortunately it’s not often I believe much on here.

I’m surprised more people haven’t picked up on this being sexual assault, although that may say a lot about who posts here. 🤔

I remember reading something online about this happening to someone and they just froze. They wanted it to stop but couldn’t and they were too scared to report them. Very distressing.