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newmanhelp · 07/06/2023 07:28

I've been single a long time and my last boyfriend made a comment that has now given me a complex regarding oral sex.

I would love to do it to my new partner but I am worried I will be absolutely rubbish. He is also circumcised and this is all new to me. I don't even know how to touch him as it doesn't move, if that makes sense! I'm worried about teeth, gagging, how I will look doing it.... everything!

Please can someone help me!

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Nocirculation · 07/06/2023 07:42

Don't worry about it too much, you will worry far more than him. There's a good instructional film on Erika Lust for revision!

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newmanhelp · 07/06/2023 08:03

Erica lust????
Do I just type it into Google?

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newmanhelp · 07/06/2023 08:34

Thank you
I'm just so desperate to get over this. He is much more experienced than me and I'm really at an age where I shouldn't be just learning. What a turn off for him!

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Nocirculation · 07/06/2023 09:34

Always learning, regardless of age 😁.

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StarlightLady · 07/06/2023 13:45

There is minimal difference between giving a blown to someone who is circumcised or uncircumcised. With either, think Ice lolly. It works.

And don't let ridiculous exes make you feel bad.

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newmanhelp · 07/06/2023 14:54

@StarlightLady thank you. Yes, he stayed with me for 5 years after and back tracked his comment but the damage was already done!

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MightyFine79 · 07/06/2023 22:05

I think you’ll find it’s a real turn ON for him. Why not ask him? “Please teach me how you would like me to…” and complete as explicitly as you wish. That will surely make his heart skip a beat! 😉

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weathervane1 · 08/06/2023 05:41

As a circumcised male I can't comment on un-circumcised men but whenever I've been with a fairly new partner, they invariably comment how nice it is to be face-to-face (so to speak) with my most sensitive bits without waiting for the foreskin to retract or having to worm their tongue into the foreskin tube to lick around the frenulum etc. It's all there within easy reach and you can see if it's nice and clean. As for your comment about it (foreskin?) not moving, there is plenty of skin movement below the glans and I find receiving a blowjob to be a very sensuous experience. The foreskin also has enough elasticity for it to be drawn forward over the frenulum to create a lovely sensation. Go for it OP, I think you'll be pleasantly surprised - I know your partner will!

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newmanhelp · 08/06/2023 08:16

@MightyFine79 I did think maybe I should ask him! Maybe after a few drinks!

I filmed myself practicing on my vibrator to see how I look and it's not too bad... just hope it will feel right. I'm quite tempted to send him the video with a teach me comment... would that be a terrible idea?

@weathervane1 thanks so much, I must say it's a very pretty one!

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Zanatdy · 08/06/2023 15:03

My most recent bf was circumcised and it didn’t make any difference in terms of giving a BJ. Most men don’t object, ask him what feels nice

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PinkPeony3 · 09/06/2023 15:00

OP - I’m in a similar position as you! A guy made a comment about a blow job years ago and I never gave one since! Now seeing someone new and I would like to so came on to ask for tips.

Will watch the video later. Hopeful bump of the thread to see if anyone else has more tips for a BJ novice 😬

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newmanhelp · 09/06/2023 15:41

@PinkPeony3 embarrassing isn't it!
I wouldn't mind but he was pretty crap at it himself but of course I was far too kind to tell him that!

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PinkPeony3 · 09/06/2023 16:23

It is! And it’s so annoying that one comment from one person can have that much impact 🥲

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WithTheirDogAfterTheWar · 09/06/2023 20:43

newmanhelp · 08/06/2023 08:16

@MightyFine79 I did think maybe I should ask him! Maybe after a few drinks!

I filmed myself practicing on my vibrator to see how I look and it's not too bad... just hope it will feel right. I'm quite tempted to send him the video with a teach me comment... would that be a terrible idea?

@weathervane1 thanks so much, I must say it's a very pretty one!

I think sending him the video saying, I’ve been practising, tell me what you like, would be extremely well received!

But you don’t have to go from nothing to full on blow job, just give it a bit of a kiss and get to know it, and see what happens 😉

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newmanhelp · 10/06/2023 12:01

@WithTheirDogAfterTheWar

I did send a video, at least he knows already what I look like doing it and I feel like I've taken some sort of control of my fear!l

It was VERY VERY well received!! So feel much more confident now. @PinkPeony3 maybe try that!

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WithTheirDogAfterTheWar · 10/06/2023 12:10

Ha, glad he liked it, although don’t know why he wouldn’t have, sounds hot 😁 When are you seeing him next?

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newmanhelp · 10/06/2023 13:16

@WithTheirDogAfterTheWar
Next wknd, it's long distance so fun building the anticipation!

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Opentooffers · 17/06/2023 14:08

As far as touching goes, it's your hand that has to glide up and down as there is no give in the skin that moves. So lube is your friend with circumcision, aids the glide 😉

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weathervane1 · 17/06/2023 17:18

@Opentooffers I don't mean to sound as if I'm correcting you - circumcisions clearly vary depending on the age when they are done, where the cut is made etc, but as a circumcised male with a fully visible 'helmet', there is plenty of give in the skin between that and my scrotum. There is no need for lube it a gliding action - at least in my case. Although I'm not an avid watcher of porn, I'd say my grip and move up and down technique is pretty much the same as for a non-circumcised bloke. Clearly the answer OP is to take a lead from the man himself as he'll know what works for him.

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HowManyTimesHaveIToldYou · 18/06/2023 19:11

weathervane1 · 17/06/2023 17:18

@Opentooffers I don't mean to sound as if I'm correcting you - circumcisions clearly vary depending on the age when they are done, where the cut is made etc, but as a circumcised male with a fully visible 'helmet', there is plenty of give in the skin between that and my scrotum. There is no need for lube it a gliding action - at least in my case. Although I'm not an avid watcher of porn, I'd say my grip and move up and down technique is pretty much the same as for a non-circumcised bloke. Clearly the answer OP is to take a lead from the man himself as he'll know what works for him.

Agree. Circumcised and never needed lube, although it is occasionally a nice change 😁

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