Self conscious during oral sex

LilyTuesday · 2023-05-08T00:12:34+00:00

ok, so like a lot of women, I LOVE receiving oral sex. But is it really just me that is SO self conscious during it?? To the point that unless I’ve had a couple of drinks (rare for me these days) I just can’t relax and orgasm, and only half the enjoy it. 😤 how can I just relax?? I worry that he’s not enjoying it, that I smell or something (shouldn’t do, I do wash daily!😬) or that - slightly TMI- I’m too wet down there. Tips welcome from men too!

Yorkieboy · 08/05/2023 02:25

Smell will not bother most men, in fact its quite turn on, so is the taste thats why we do it.

And as for being too wet... the wetter the better!

namechanged1010 · 08/05/2023 04:29

Is he complimenting you and showing how much he likes doing and wanting to go there? I think that is important especially early on in a relationship.

I don't worry as my OH demonstrably loves going down on me, is so enthusiastic and compliments me on how I look below. I know he loves me fully shaved so occasionally if I have some regrowth I overthink but he is fine. He usually alternates between PIV and then going down again.

Perhaps try the odd prompt like "is that nice for you?" and see how he responds

Sparkybloke · 08/05/2023 07:44

I can't speak for your partner but I'd imagine he absolutely loves it. Really...don't fret. Try to relax and enjoy. Maybe some warm mood lighting or some gentle music might help?. It's some I really love doing and I would imagine that the majority of men would feel the same...we love giving oral sex...

NCSexForum · 08/05/2023 08:30

namechanged1010 · 08/05/2023 04:29

Is he complimenting you and showing how much he likes doing and wanting to go there? I think that is important especially early on in a relationship.

I don't worry as my OH demonstrably loves going down on me, is so enthusiastic and compliments me on how I look below. I know he loves me fully shaved so occasionally if I have some regrowth I overthink but he is fine. He usually alternates between PIV and then going down again.

Perhaps try the odd prompt like "is that nice for you?" and see how he responds

I love the idea of my DH going down on me after sex, he’s never done it though.

justmyskin1952 · 08/05/2023 11:06

Do not worry about your wetness it is great sign. Your body is responding. I love the wetness and since I have a moustache I will have some juices in my moustache for hours. Just relax and enjoy.

Zanatdy · 08/05/2023 12:19

NCSexForum · 08/05/2023 08:30

I love the idea of my DH going down on me after sex, he’s never done it though.

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Guy I was seeing recently did it and I loved it. Only once! Generally he just kept it to foreplay. I loved having sex with him as he was very attentive and I’ve not met many men who love giving oral sex! He definitely gave me more than I gave him, which is unusual for me. I wasn’t complaining

NCSexForum · 08/05/2023 12:27

Zanatdy · 08/05/2023 12:19

Guy I was seeing recently did it and I loved it. Only once! Generally he just kept it to foreplay. I loved having sex with him as he was very attentive and I’ve not met many men who love giving oral sex! He definitely gave me more than I gave him, which is unusual for me. I wasn’t complaining

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Lucky lady, he sounds a keeper!

AngryBirdsNoMore · 13/05/2023 00:55

justmyskin1952 · 08/05/2023 11:06

Do not worry about your wetness it is great sign. Your body is responding. I love the wetness and since I have a moustache I will have some juices in my moustache for hours. Just relax and enjoy.

Ugh this made me heave. Why would you not wash your face afterwards?

ididntknowthat11 · 14/05/2023 14:45

namechanged1010 · 08/05/2023 04:29

Is he complimenting you and showing how much he likes doing and wanting to go there? I think that is important especially early on in a relationship.

I don't worry as my OH demonstrably loves going down on me, is so enthusiastic and compliments me on how I look below. I know he loves me fully shaved so occasionally if I have some regrowth I overthink but he is fine. He usually alternates between PIV and then going down again.

Perhaps try the odd prompt like "is that nice for you?" and see how he responds

What compliments on how you look down below?

Just curious as I'm not sure I've had any compliments on how it looks and not sure what one could say?

HisHobbyIsSex · 14/05/2023 14:49

ididntknowthat11 · 14/05/2023 14:45

What compliments on how you look down below?

Just curious as I'm not sure I've had any compliments on how it looks and not sure what one could say?

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I really do not think mine is objectively at all attractive, but most men will say what a 'beautiful pussy' when being allowed access!

Fcuk38 · 15/05/2023 22:31

When are women going to learn that men love a wet pussy. They want you to soak their faces. Men are visual so the more wetness the more they think you are being turned on my them. Do what I do just relax and let the juices flow, and even more so enjoy it, it feels amazing.

eatdrinkandbemerry · 16/05/2023 20:33

Female who likes females but definitely the wetter the better and everyone has a little scent and taste but we wouldn't offer if we didn't like it .

BCBird · 19/05/2023 21:19

I not sure it really my bag,but I found it incredibly looking down to see my partner

WedTheBed · 05/06/2023 20:53

I used to feel like this but after 9 years with my DP I’ve become a lot more comfortable and can now orgasm every time. It used to be such a mental block for me. Worried about smelling.. also low key dead worried about farting in his face during 😂 I only tend to ‘let him’ go down fresh out of the shower still, if it’s been more than a couple hours I have a quick swipe with a wet wipe.

if smell/taste are your mental block.. try some fruity lube? Swipe a little on before he goes down 🤭