Not as tight as I used to be

[Donedusting]

I should start by saying I’ve had 3 natural births so I fully expect not to be in perfect shape! Last baby was a year ago and I’m noticing when me and DH have sex now, that when I’m very aroused, I don’t think he can feel much.
what can I do about this?

I’d start by getting an appointment with a physio who specialises in women’s health, they can assess you properly and then take it from there. They will be able to guide you through appropriate treatment, such as pelvic floor exercises.

Pelvic floor therapy would be best. My wife and I are both having pelvic floor therapy. We just started and the therapist said she will help us be better.

There's so much help about pelvic floor exercises on the internet. There's kegel training equipment too. I got mine from Amazon.

There are various pelvic floor trainers available - I've used the Perifit (which I love, you play little games!) and the Kegel8 (which is much more passive).

Yes, pelvic floor exercises. DW's natural tightness is irrelevant because she can clench so hard that she squeezes me right out.

@Catullus5 would you mind sharing her exercise regime?!

@Mermaidparades
It seems quite complicated. I don't think she has a pelvic floor routine but she does a lot of what she calls core exercises. The clenching definitely increased when I got her some Lelo luna beads.

(Nb, for any man reading, men can get various benefits from pelvic floor exercises too.)

@Catullus5 thank you. I have a similar product to the Lelo Beads, I must make a proper effort to actually use it!

My wife had an app which would encourage her to do regular pelvic floor exercises. We could just be driving in the car and this app on her phone would start beeping away. Once she told me what it was I would join in with her...