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Husband wanking over me

29 replies

tittytittywankwank · 01/01/2023 18:16

Hi everyone

I have name changed for this BlushBlushBlush

Last night I thought my period had stopped, both had a glass of wine celebrating new year and went to have sex. I was still bleeding, we don't have period sex. So my husband asked me to take my top off and let him wank over my breasts. It's the first time he has ever asked this. It just felt a bit weird. It wasn't enjoyable on my part overly. Is this a normal thing to do?

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Hijinks75 · 01/01/2023 18:23

Guess it’s perfectly normal for some people and not for others, if it made you feel uncomfortable it’s probably not for you, maybe you need to ask why he wanted to do it, OH will wank me off if she doesn’t fancy sex but I wouldn’t expect her to do something she didn’t enjoy

ClaireVictorias · 01/01/2023 19:20

Yes all the time! Whether I’m on my period or not… he enjoys it and if I’m aroused I do too!

Zanatdy · 01/01/2023 21:14

I think it can be normal for some, breasts or face. For some it’s a hard no. Just depends how you feel about it, probably not for you if you’re uncomfortable

PermanentTemporary · 01/01/2023 22:12

Pretty normal in a way but clearly not for you.

Would it have been better if you'd been involved and doing the active part, even if it ended the same way?

Givenupgivingashit · 01/01/2023 22:30

Just be careful you don't get it in the eye cos it fucking stings! 😂

Logicalreasoning · 01/01/2023 22:44

My DP loves this, but I don’t like it all the time... makes me feel dirty sometimes.
I think in most pornos I’ve ever seen this happens, more on faces than breasts but each to thier own..

LosingIt2022 · 02/01/2023 08:13

I don't understand these questions about what is "normal".
These things are hugely subjective, what does 'normal' even mean?

If you found out that 90% of couples do it, would you force yourself to accept it as if it were your fault for not liking it?

If you found out that only 0.1% of the couple do it, would you tell off your partner for being in a tiny minority of perverts?

You don't enjoy it, that's all that matters IMHO.

IamShirley · 02/01/2023 11:24

If there was a nicer word than 'wank' I think it would be less objectionable to many women. Masturbate is too medical. IMO

AllMyExesWearRolexes · 02/01/2023 11:47

@IamShirley
"Relaxing in a gentleman's way"...?

Givenupgivingashit · 02/01/2023 12:04

IamShirley · 02/01/2023 11:24

If there was a nicer word than 'wank' I think it would be less objectionable to many women. Masturbate is too medical. IMO

What's the matter with 'wank'? And surely it doesn't matter what it's called, you either like it or you don't?

IamShirley · 02/01/2023 13:32

@AllMyExesWearRolexes
Very good, I like the subtlety

NorthAngel · 02/01/2023 14:04

I have never had this done to me (showing my sexual inexperience here) but I don’t think I’d like it on the boobs but definitely not on the face. I think both are off-cuts of pornography tbh and not the way I’d want a man to treat me. Disrespectful to a woman, I think.

AllMyExesWearRolexes · 02/01/2023 14:07

@IamShirley
One aims to please (one's self mostly)...

LosingIt2022 · 02/01/2023 15:00

@AllMyExesWearRolexes well,yes, the right AIM is very important in these cases :)

HelpMeGetThrough · 02/01/2023 15:46

IamShirley · 02/01/2023 11:24

If there was a nicer word than 'wank' I think it would be less objectionable to many women. Masturbate is too medical. IMO

Stirring up some gentleman's relish.

Angelsman · 02/01/2023 19:33

We call it having a 'Solo O '. We find that quite a sexy way for us to ask the other if they've had an O on their own ie 'been masturbating'.

TeflonSwan · 02/01/2023 19:48

We call it having a play, which seems mild enough to not offend. We used the withdraw method for a few years (got away with it thankfully) until we could agree contraception. I eventually found ‘air shots’ to be really unsatisfying, so DW suggested using her boobs to finish with and that helped me with the physical contact aspect

FrenchOrEnglish · 02/01/2023 23:31

DH and I are both big fans of watching the other masturbate.

Normally it's as foreplay as I get too turned on to let him finish by himself but if he does then my boobs are one of his favourite places to cum.

But if you don't like it then you shouldn't do it. Totally personal preference.

StarlightLady · 03/01/2023 09:01

Not for me. I relate it to a dog and a lamppost thing. I do not want to be covered in goo. I like things neat and tidy.

I’m not a prude, l’m happy to swallow, but for me this would be a one sided step too far.

Angelsman · 03/01/2023 09:39

Update. DP has just suggested the term 'cock massage' rather than 'wank' - a term we both don't like.

StarlightLady · 03/01/2023 11:20

In my view you can call it what you like. It still makes women subservient.

Hijinks75 · 03/01/2023 18:51

Straight lady, if the woman does this through with her oh through choice , is that subservient, my OH knows I really enjoy her giving me oral and we spend much of our sex encounters doing that, she also likes playing with my bottom, love it but don’t ask her to or the oral, is she subservient too, just wondering

FrenchOrEnglish · 03/01/2023 19:35

StarlightLady · 03/01/2023 11:20

In my view you can call it what you like. It still makes women subservient.

Give over. While I can totally appreciate how awful and demeaning it could be to be ejaculated on against your will please don't apply that to all relationships.

Plenty of people enjoy it. I for one request/offer.

If anything I wear the trousers in our marriage.

There's nothing subservient about me enjoying bringing my husband to orgasm. We both have total say in what we want in our sex life.

Plus he makes me cum much more than I do him. And he's has my fluids on him just as much as I've had his on me. I literally sit on the man's face, I'd say that's a step up from some semen on my torso!

StarlightLady · 04/01/2023 07:50

For those questioning my viewpoint, maybe l didn’t express myself particularly well. I did say “in my opinion” though.

Obviously if 2 people enjoy something and it is not causing harm, it is not for anyone else to interfere. In this case though the OP was not comfortable and seeking the thoughts of others.

bedtimeisthebest · 04/01/2023 09:35

The three women I regularly have sex with all enjoy me and others coming on their boobs, stomach or pussy, or in their mouth or but none of them ever want me to cum on their face.

There are two men I also have sex with, usually in a MMF threesome and one of those likes me to cum on his face and for him to cum on mine.

I have to say I find it a turn on when he cums om my face especially if his or my wife then licks it off and then kisses me.

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