Horny all the time

DGConsultant · 11/12/2022 20:42

Hi. From the perspective of a guy, absolutely. In my case, I'm 36, no partner, and on the face of It, no obvious outlet apart from frequent masterbation. A difficult situation. Good luck. Establishing similarity in sex drive, at least in a dating context, is a tough ask, and once your inside the confines of the relationship, impossible to deal with, unless compromise from both partners.

Rieslinger · 12/12/2022 10:45

Have you tried unlocking his box a bit? It can help the libido bit if you can tap into the fantasy side of your partner, indulge a bit for both of you obvs, it might grease the slope on more of an ongoing basis

Olliee1983 · 12/12/2022 23:37

sunnywednesday · 11/12/2022 19:44

Is anyone else constantly horny?
I'm 26 F and have a DP of 3 and a half years. We definitely could have more sex than we currently do but he just doesn't have much of a sex drive.

I fantasise about having sex all of the time and I do wonder what it would be like to be able to have sex with complete strangers with no repercussions - a complete fantasy of course as I wouldn't cheat on DP but I do often think about it.

Does anyone else feel like this? Like they have a constant itch that can't be scratched.

I’m a bloke, so maybe it’s normal (or more normal) but I’m the same. My wife is very much not the same. When it’s really bad I masturbate probably twice a day, honestly not sure if working at home helps or hinders to be honest. I would love my wife to be a part of my high sex drive but I’m often too scared to proposition as she gets annoyed I pester her for sex.

Funberry · 13/12/2022 00:20

Olliee1983 · 12/12/2022 23:37

I’m a bloke, so maybe it’s normal (or more normal) but I’m the same. My wife is very much not the same. When it’s really bad I masturbate probably twice a day, honestly not sure if working at home helps or hinders to be honest. I would love my wife to be a part of my high sex drive but I’m often too scared to proposition as she gets annoyed I pester her for sex.

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This is me too, 100%. I’ve often fantasised about being with another, but have never acted on it. I’ve tried to include her with my fantasies but it doesn’t change, and it’s a cause if immense frustration

Judeisnotobscure · 13/12/2022 10:29

In the past my negative body image had a dreadful effect on my sex drive but I was able to work on it and thankfully move on! Could that be an issue for your DP?

I now view sex in our relationship as purely a physical expression of our love, rather than worrying if my tits are big enough! This in turn makes me want to make my DP see stars when he orgasms, want to make him feel super powerful when he ties me up and also feel like a god when he gives me multiple orgasms.

However, I had to learn to love myself first (as corny as that sounds!!!)

Violet90 · 13/12/2022 10:49

I like the idea of being able to explore sexually with others, as it stands we are in a monogamous marriage and it’s not something my DH would want to explore further with me. It sometimes feels quite restrictive knowing we can only allow ourselves to be sexual with one person for the majority of our lives.

Funberry · 13/12/2022 10:59

Judeisnotobscure · 13/12/2022 10:29

In the past my negative body image had a dreadful effect on my sex drive but I was able to work on it and thankfully move on! Could that be an issue for your DP?

I now view sex in our relationship as purely a physical expression of our love, rather than worrying if my tits are big enough! This in turn makes me want to make my DP see stars when he orgasms, want to make him feel super powerful when he ties me up and also feel like a god when he gives me multiple orgasms.

However, I had to learn to love myself first (as corny as that sounds!!!)

I am trying to really help my DP work on her body image, sometimes I feel we are making a breakthrough, then not. I am frustrated by my high sex drive to be honest, it would be much easier if I could lower it!

I adore her body, and I tell her often, but as you have alluded to, if she doesn't like it herself, it is then very hard.

I just have to have faith that time may change, but it has been a long time.

Funberry · 13/12/2022 11:00

Violet90 · 13/12/2022 10:49

I like the idea of being able to explore sexually with others, as it stands we are in a monogamous marriage and it’s not something my DH would want to explore further with me. It sometimes feels quite restrictive knowing we can only allow ourselves to be sexual with one person for the majority of our lives.

I want to explore things, and my DP has occassionaly hinted she may be open to a sex club, but then changes her mind and would want to go somewhere far away to avoid the risk of meeting someone we know!

I don't think it would ever happen, but I would love to explore more sexuality with others, try things, but involving my DP too.

OrlandointheWilderness · 13/12/2022 11:13

Yes I've got a high sex drive! 😂 I normally scratch the itch twice a day and luckily my DP also has a decent sex drive so we are fortunate to be very compatible. Obviously life sometimes gets in the way, he works incredibly long hours and there have been health issues that have resulted in a temporary dip, but it resolves and I just sort myself out for a time. I know how lucky I am as I've been in relationships where it has been a real problem.

StarlightSaga · 17/12/2022 00:46

@sunnywednesday yes I think about sex a lot, and I think we tend to be self-selective by finding ourselves on the “sex” forum 😄. Luckily my husband has a HL and has never turned me down that I can ever remember. In fact, if it wasn’t that we still have a teen at home I think we would have sex probably as soon as we got home, including “afternoon delights” as we work a short drive away.

Because I am happily married and satisfied I haven’t any interest in having sex with anyone else.