Tips for giving an amazing BJ

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In a new sexual relationship. Very new.

I have been re-introduced to the world of sex and it's going well!

But I think over the years with my previous partner I became very disengaged and just went through the motions. He would always come so I never had to put a lot of effort in. I didn't really care by the end at all, tbh. I did the bare minimum, probably.

Would like to improve now though, so any tips to make a BJ incredible would be appreciated.

Will walk you through my BJ style for my DH. We are quite vanilla, so someone will be along with something more adventurous I'm sure:

I slip on something that's tricky to get off- a one piece lingerie as he knows it's his turn for some oral
Sit him in one of our big armchairs
Pop a pillow on the floor in front of him
Sit on his lap and kiss him loads, neck etc to check he's getting hard
Move down slowly kissing him as I go south
I kiss his penis a lot (DH is quite big) and he likes a lick from top of balls to tip
He likes me licking between anus and sack (not his actual anus)
I compliment him and check he's enjoying it
Sometimes pump with my hand while I have my lips around his penis just at the top half
When I use my mouth I try to slightly tighten my lips so I don't risk getting my teeth involved
I gently drag my nails up and down his torso when I know he's close to climaxing

Hope that helps.
make sure you enjoy giving it too OP.

A man here...I agree 100% with everything Xtraincome has said. I would add that the aim is not to take the entire length in your mouth. I'm very average but trying to take it all in does nothing extra for me. Focus on the top two inches or so...where all the nerves are. I like my balls massaged. A gentle bit of hand massage around the shaft can be lovely and can hasten things along!
Do agree with him beforehand where he is going to ejaculate. If you don't want it in your mouth then make it clear. And as Xtraincome says...do it as much for you as him...
Do

Oh...and insist he returns the favour

Work the shift- Cup the balls

Oh yes and eye contact.

@Xtraincome

Will walk you through my BJ style for my DH. We are quite vanilla, so someone will be along with something more adventurous I'm sure:

I slip on something that's tricky to get off- a one piece lingerie as he knows it's his turn for some oral
Sit him in one of our big armchairs
Pop a pillow on the floor in front of him
Sit on his lap and kiss him loads, neck etc to check he's getting hard
Move down slowly kissing him as I go south
I kiss his penis a lot (DH is quite big) and he likes a lick from top of balls to tip
He likes me licking between anus and sack (not his actual anus)
I compliment him and check he's enjoying it
Sometimes pump with my hand while I have my lips around his penis just at the top half
When I use my mouth I try to slightly tighten my lips so I don't risk getting my teeth involved
I gently drag my nails up and down his torso when I know he's close to climaxing

Hope that helps.
make sure you enjoy giving it too OP.

The area between the anus and balls is commonly referred to as "the taint"

@MisterT373 I never knew that! Now I know it has a name

Or, more technically, the perineum 🙂

I had a partner who quite it being pressed with a finger or thumb. It can feel good for women too, just FYI ;-)

You can stimulate the prostate externally if you put a fair bit of pressure on the perineum. My DP loves that during a BJ.

As above really
A very wet mouth is delicious
Often my wife will tease me for a long time getting me so close over and over and changing focus from the top few inches to my balls and lower shaft she often pushes her fingers up my arse which I love, totally changes the bj sensation and gives me some more time when I am so close to shooting she will stop I always return the oral - I love to really take my time and feel her cum on my face a couple of times before we move to PIV me taking time allows my cock to move a couple of steps back from cumming
Sometimes when she is giving me a bj she does all of the above but does not stop, I never know how far she will take me
Oral sex is a massive part of sex for us we both absolutely love it

Ok, a tip then a funny story.

Tip: not mind-blowing for every guy, but good for throwing some variety in. Lick the underside with a full length tongue out. Hook a hand around the shaft AND around the back of your tongue too. Kinda like strapping the tongue on. Then move up and down. I’ve had lovers halt proceedings to find out ‘what was THAT you did!!!?’

Story: read on MN once about a woman who was on one of these ‘Tips for BJs’ threads. She learnt that constant eye contact was a huge turn-on for guys, so she duly incorporated it in her sex-life. Years (and lovers) come and go. Until one guy takes pity on her and explains that it might work better if she did the eye contact bit with his face instead. 😆

Told my lover this story mid bj, and now we crack up nearly every time. He’ll say ‘ I hope you’re keeping an eye on things down there?’ or I’ll say ‘Hey this position is tricky, I can’t see a damn thing!’.

Well, here's my cent's worth: I prefer it if hands play no part whatsoever in a blow job. If they are to be used, then lightly caressing my balls is the way to go.

In contrast to some, the deeper I am into a woman's mouth/throat the better it is for me. One particularly fantastic fellatrix from my past could take me completely into her throat and then use the rhythmic swallowing action of her throat muscles to bring me to orgasm.

The one factor in a top-quality blow job that overrides all others though is quite simply enthusiasm.

I know this is a bit late but maybe it'll still be some use.

• Ask him what he likes, where he likes to be touched and if there's anything he doesn't like

• if you hold the shaft then there's no need to deep throat. It also protects you from idiots who like to fuck your mouth and hear you choking on it.

• if you want to deep throat, then the best position is with your head hanging backwards off the bed, as it helps open you up more

• licking works wonders. Especially if you stop every now and then to lick along the shaft in between sucking. Also playing with the frenulum and tip with your tongue, as if it's a lollipop.

I use a very wide variety depending on how quickly I want him to cum and what other things we are doing. He loves 69 but my technique is less controlled when I'm cummin on his tongue 😂
He loves to be as deep as possible and luckily I take great pleasure in taking him as deep into my throat as I can.
Really enthusiasm is key. And a wet mouth.