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MsWalterMitty · 06/11/2021 11:07

So I signed up to fab swingers s dh and I would like to explore with other couples. But within the first evening of being signed up I received a Dick pick from a 65yr old who insisted he was good looking 🙄

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Japingjaponica · 06/11/2021 12:09

That's nothing! On fAb loads of them have dick pics as their PROFILES.

you just have to sift your way through

SueSaid · 06/11/2021 12:10

It would seem a bit premature to label it as 'seedy' on the basis on one dick pic, surely the whole point of swinging sites is everyone is very open sexually. Just be specific in your bio on what you're looking for and delete or block any unwanted contact.

I'm far from an expert in this, I'm just surprised you're surprised someone sent you a dick pic on a swinging site Grin

MsWalterMitty · 06/11/2021 12:22

@Japingjaponica

That's nothing! On fAb loads of them have dick pics as their PROFILES.

you just have to sift your way through

Yeah, I noticed that! Which isn’t as bad I think as it’s public. But this guy was blatantly just wanting a shag with any one
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MsWalterMitty · 06/11/2021 12:22

@JaniieJones

It would seem a bit premature to label it as 'seedy' on the basis on one dick pic, surely the whole point of swinging sites is everyone is very open sexually. Just be specific in your bio on what you're looking for and delete or block any unwanted contact.

I'm far from an expert in this, I'm just surprised you're surprised someone sent you a dick pic on a swinging site Grin

🤣 Fair enough! I just expected a bit of conversation first, you know… a hello! 🤣🤣
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PinotPony · 06/11/2021 12:38

And that's exactly why I abandoned FAB for Killing Kittens..!

Japingjaponica · 06/11/2021 12:39

Ha ha very naive!!
I once searched for a FWB on there, put it on my profile very clearly that I would not respond to any men whose profile was dick pics.
I STILL got messaged like 'would you like to be part of my mother/son fantasy' and 'wanna come to a layby and suck me off'.

MsWalterMitty · 06/11/2021 12:51

@Japingjaponica

Ha ha very naive!! I once searched for a FWB on there, put it on my profile very clearly that I would not respond to any men whose profile was dick pics. I STILL got messaged like 'would you like to be part of my mother/son fantasy' and 'wanna come to a layby and suck me off'.
It’s not necessarily about nativity, i kind of knew that there were single men on there just looking for a shag with anyone who’ll say yes… but i don’t get the mentality. Why on Earth do they think a Dick pic is going to entice me! 🤣 I’ve been on the feeld app for a while now, and although We’ve not met up with anyone… yet. I haven’t received any Dick pics on there.

I’m signed up to killing kittens but I’m reluctant to pay £20 to take advantage if the full site as I’m unsure how busy it is or whether it’s mostly London/city focused… I’m in the depths of Cumbria, so not sure it would be ideal for me

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AverageGuy · 06/11/2021 13:26

@MsWalterMitty - Unfortunately, there are a lot of guys on Fab that think their penis is the most wonderful thing in the world, and that any woman will fall over themselves to get hold of it... I don't understand that mentality either.. Sad

Some of us, however, keep intimate photos for friends only, and won't play unless there is some sort of a connection.. So a chat and a social is absolutely necessary first.

Set your filters to block single guys, or, if you might entertain a single guy, set a age range like 90 - 95 (although you might be surprised! Grin), and persevere. The block button is very effective.

Be aware that four-way chemistry is really difficult to find...

MsWalterMitty · 06/11/2021 13:37

[quote AverageGuy]@MsWalterMitty - Unfortunately, there are a lot of guys on Fab that think their penis is the most wonderful thing in the world, and that any woman will fall over themselves to get hold of it... I don't understand that mentality either.. Sad

Some of us, however, keep intimate photos for friends only, and won't play unless there is some sort of a connection.. So a chat and a social is absolutely necessary first.

Set your filters to block single guys, or, if you might entertain a single guy, set a age range like 90 - 95 (although you might be surprised! Grin), and persevere. The block button is very effective.

Be aware that four-way chemistry is really difficult to find...[/quote]
Thank you for the advice. Yeah I’ve noticed the difficulty of four way chemistry on Feeld. But i thought that it was down to the app as you can’t have multi way messaging between couples.

My dh has been chatting to someone for a couple of weeks now, and although I’m in the loop and chipping here and there… it is through his and her feeld account and although i am linked to his as a couple, we can’t join in each other’s messaging. Which is rubbish.

So although he’s built up this relationship/connection with this other person, I have said no to meeting her as I haven’t been able to. But on the other hand, I am chatting to a couple of others, but my dh isn’t in the conversations.

It’s tricky

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MsWalterMitty · 06/11/2021 13:38

*haven’t been able to connect with her.

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rwalker · 06/11/2021 15:23

Fab is just about hooking up for sex not making friends it's brutal

Kebabandchipsplease · 06/11/2021 17:05

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MsWalterMitty · 06/11/2021 17:14

@rwalker

Fab is just about hooking up for sex not making friends it's brutal
Oh right… I’ll stay clear then. Thanks
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MsWalterMitty · 06/11/2021 17:15

@Kebabandchipsplease

I'm far from a feeld expert, but I do believe you can make a group chat on there.

Don't have the app at the mo to check, but I think you can add others in there, I know I it by mistake when seeing what a button did, it then said I could add another of my contacts to the chat.

Might be worth having a play with it to see

Great, thanks! My dh is currently working away so I’ll message him
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Fontaine33 · 07/11/2021 06:50

You can do a group chat on Feeld. I’m on there. Alternatively move to WhatsApp once you’ve connected and had a chat. Block function on there too

AverageGuy · 08/11/2021 09:22

@rwalker

Fab is just about hooking up for sex not making friends it's brutal
I completely disagree. Yes, it absoultely can be used like that, but for a large percentage of people, its a swinging site, not a sex site.

imho, swinging is a lifestyle choice and Fab was origionally set up to facilitate it.

Unforunately, there has been a large influx of people that see it as a "instashag" site, and that has given it a bad name...

AnotherMalbecPlease · 08/11/2021 14:29

@rwalker

Fab is just about hooking up for sex not making friends it's brutal
Not true at all - I have had a couple of good FWB from there - with the F being just as important as the B. You just have to wade through a lot of unsuitable men but there are some really nice ones on there
MisterT373 · 10/11/2021 19:53

I've taken more women who I've met on Fabs out for dinner than I've had sex with.

What can I say - I'm a feeder

GentlemanJay · 11/11/2021 15:02

I've met some great people on there so including two lovely FWBs.

GentlemanJay · 11/11/2021 15:11

To the person that said Fab is just for hookups.

I met two lovely ladies on there last year. We don't fancy each other. Nothing going on, but I've had the most amazing days out with them. Walking, meals out, shopping trips. Sleep overs after food and a film. Not so much as a kids.

So you are very wrong.

Getbehindme · 11/11/2021 21:16

@MisterT373

I've taken more women who I've met on Fabs out for dinner than I've had sex with.

What can I say - I'm a feeder

Ooohh where are you based?? Grin
RagzReturnsRebooted · 28/11/2021 20:31

DH and I were on Fab briefly, many, many years ago, met a lovely couple and had a fun night. I don't remember getting any dick pics, so either I had my settings quite strict or it wasn't as bad then. I'm guessing the latter, as it was over a decade ago.
I am happy to say, I have never once in my life received an unsolicited dick pic. My sister is 10 years younger and had loads. I don't understand why men think we would want this? Does it ever work??

Not as young and slim as I once was, so unlikely to venture back on there, though DH would love to (I would as well, but too self conscious now!). I'd probably go for alternative sites that are more aimed at women and less likely to get me an inbox full of dick...

B1rdflyinghigh · 29/11/2021 08:01

I've been on fab for 2 years. I'm a poster of photos rather than someone who uses the site for meets. I have though, met someone lovely people from fab for socials. One became a partner.

You can get overwhelmed with messages. But it is a case of sifting through the dick pics. Occasionally you'll find a diamond. I probably have about 7 men who I talk to regularly about every day life.

But definitely use the filters to weed out people that you're not interested in.

Patience is a wonderful thing!

AverageGuy · 29/11/2021 08:59

@RagzReturnsRebooted - "Not as young and slim as I once was" - you absolutely should not let that stop you.

There are all ages, shapes & sizes out there, and I'm certain that you will find someone that suits. Get back out there - you are a long time dead...

DillonPanthersTexas · 29/11/2021 14:44

Is FabSwingers the main go to site these days? Used to use Swinging Heaven back in the day and that was a bit hit and miss insofar as timewasters and textspeak morons.

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