How can I create a good sex life?!

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DP and I have been together for 7 years. Our sex life was always a bit different to my previous relationships. There was never much flirting/teasing/talking about sex, but the sex itself has always been great.

Now we're a fair way into the relationship and I'm missing a bit of excitement but I just don't know where to start because we've never done it.

I want a bit more adventure, I want to feel desired and like he's really wanting me sexually but it's just not there unless we're already in the act...

Any ideas to bring the spark back a bit?

I think both really fancying each other and not taking each other for granted is the key to everything like the flirting and touching which leads to great sex.

If you don't firt/tease/talk about sex, howdoes it start?
Does he know you feel this way?
Could you start the flirting? Or would he run a mile?

In my experience, if someone doesn’t have those kind of feelings, you will find it difficult to foster them.

As PP says how are you currently making your partner feel desired, maybe you could ramp that up a bit ?

@Estherpologist

If you don't firt/tease/talk about sex, howdoes it start? Does he know you feel this way? Could you start the flirting? Or would he run a mile?

We're affectionate with each other so we'll just be having a cuddle and kissing and then it goes from there.

Honestly because we've never been like that it would just feel awkward to start being flirty in an overtly sexual way!

It's ridiculous because in all other areas things are perfect and we talk about everything but we've just never been very "dirty" with each other. We took things really slow at the beginning which did our relationship good but I don't think helped with being open about our sexual feelings towards each other.

Perhaps bring some fun into trying new things..? There are lots of naughty board games available. I quite like the Monogamy one from Ann Summers.

We used to go out and find places for sex in the country when weather was good. Great fun knowing that we would have a fuck but exciting not knowing where.