Saggy boobs- a male perspective please

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So, I’m 40’s, in good shape generally but have always had less then perky boobs and now having extended breastfed two kids they are a bit deflated and pendulous. I look good in underwear but am so self conscious of taking my bra off. Having come out of a long marriage I’m back on ‘the market’ and worried they will be a big turn off!
I’ve been chatting to a guy who’s ex was 10 years younger then me and clearly perky. I don’t knowing I can face getting naked in front of him!

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Men love boobs - full stop.

If you're conscious when you get naked then just make sure you lay on the bed and stretch your arms over your head. After a while he will be totally captivated by you and it won't matter.

Men love boobs - full stop.

No we don't - I've never been a fan of big boobs.

Just understand, that what's in your head (i.e. confidence) is massively more attractive than any sign of natural aging.

Honestly, all women of all ages are different. There are 20-somethings with less perky boobs, and 30/40-somethings that don't look a day over 20.

Anyone that is attracted to you, irrespective of what you perceive as your lumps and bumps, is attracted to you. Please allow yourselves to be desired. As that's the most attractive trait.

I said boobs, not big boobs

I'm 26 and I've got big boobs, they've always been pretty saggy. I've just put it down to gravity 🤣 No guy I've ever been with has been put off, quite the opposite tbh. And that's guys my age, I would imagine older men would expect a bit of sagging if they're dating women who are in their age range and have had children etc. I really wouldn't worry, OP!

I've always had big boobs, and they've never been perky out of a push up bra. No one seems to mind.

The media has a great deal to answer for. It has fed women with the idea that they must have a particular physical feature to be attractive. Women come in an infinite variety of shapes and sizes, but for me the one thing that makes me feel attracted to a woman is her self-confidence.

A vain creature who has a theoretically gorgeous body who is always checking out her reflection in the mirror is nowhere near as beautiful as someone who has saggy boobs and is not bothered by such things.

Just launch yourself into this with a determination to have a good time and also to make sure he does. That attitude, coupled with confidence and self-belief, will see you right.

Best wishes.

Any man who would think badly of you for this is not worth having a relationship with you. Speaking as a man.

Boobs are great. Big or small, perky or saggy.
If it helps give them a little stroke when you get them out.

Boobs are amazing, big ones, small ones, you name it. The only ones most guys don't like are those really bad fake ones.

Boobs are good... I'm not into massive ones but apart from that all boobs are good.

Stop worrying.

Unlikeable boobs are a myth - like leftover wine.

Op I wouldn't worry about it. If any man is lucky enough to get to a point where he is seeing your boobs, he won't care if they are saggy or not...

Most of us realise that age and gravity affects women, and won't have any issues with it.

Far TMI, but a lady I had a ,er, connection with had such saggy boobs that they touched the bed each side of her... Didn't cause me any problems what so ever!

From my experience most big boobs are quite saggy, never bothered me and I'd be surprised if anyones really that bothered about them.
Think you're over thinking it to be honest

Whether they are, big, small, pert, saggy, they are you so just be confident with what you have. I'm sure there are some blokes out there that could be put off but I'm sure there are ladies out there who could find saggy testicles a turn off. At the stage of (either) being visible to partners, you should be enjoying each others bodies rather than judging them!