It was like this with the last fella too, although he was trainable and learned to slow down. But in general, and I don’t think this is just me, I do not find it very sexy to feel like someone is doing a root canal with their tongue on me. I prefer a little kissing, the tip of a tongue exploring, maybe the occasional nibble. But just a tongue jutting in there? Nope. Do men not notice that the person they are kissing is moving at a different speed? This evening was exasperating. I left before it went any further.