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My boyfriend likes to be fuc*ked up the bum!

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liliboard · 19/10/2019 23:49

So this is a long one.

And note, I'm deadly serious.

So me and my partner have been together for 11 years. His sex drive is waaaaay higher than mine. Which is cool. But my partner loves anal. And I don't mean my bum! He likes me to fuck him in the bum with, well, anything. Dildo, carrot, orange, my fist.
This all started within a year of our relationship. He admitted he liked some bum stuff and it's just evolved. At first I didn't mind and was interested in the new and exciting sex stuff we were doing. But as time has gone on I have hated it more and more. Dreaded it every time. It's like a chore. I really hate it. When he talks about wanting to 'suck my dick after I've fucked his arse' and 'i want your spunk up me' whilst we're in the moment just puts me off him completely. We've had countless arguments over it and I've just ended up basically saying 'i don't like it but I'll do it because you do'. But it's honestly making me find him less sexually attractive. And I feel it's completely ruining how I feel about him. We've talked loads about it and we even stopped doing it for a while which made me happy but him sad!! He says it's his way of release and takes away stress. And I get that. But no matter how hard I try, I cannot get away from feeling distant from him. I don't believe he is gay. We've got 2 kids together and are engaged (although yes , I know it can still happen) but I think he's maybe a little bit gay? Bi? I dunno.
Anyway. Any advice would be really appreciated and if anyone likes this stuff too , please, let me know!!!

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darkparadise1 · 19/10/2019 23:54

Oh god that is a lot. It does sound like he's at least bi but maybe gay. If you're not into it don't feel like you have to do it for his sake - if you don't want to he's just going to have to deal with it.

Needtobuildabridge · 19/10/2019 23:56

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QueefLatifah · 19/10/2019 23:57

Christ
I’d run a mile.

Closet gay.. spunk.. your dick...

He’s not just enjoying anal with you. He’s fantasising that you are a bloke.

Alarm bells.

gamerchick · 19/10/2019 23:57

I don't believe he is gay

Really? Hmm

There's no such thing as a little bit gay...

Jaguarana · 19/10/2019 23:57

There's a sex topic you know. Or are you too new to MN to post there?

QueefLatifah · 19/10/2019 23:58

I’d pack his bags and tell him to take his chocolate orange with him.

PumpkinP · 19/10/2019 23:58

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Wildorchidz · 19/10/2019 23:59

I’d pack his bags and tell him to take his chocolate orange with him.

😂

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liliboard · 19/10/2019 23:59

Honestly. It's real.
Well there's fully out right gay and then there's maybe a bit of dabble, bit of a fantasy but not actually wanting a relationship with a man.
I'm all for open mindedness but it's making me pretty miserable in our relationship!

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ExcitedForFuture · 19/10/2019 23:59

😆😆😆😆

Pannalash · 19/10/2019 23:59

An orange? Confused

Mrsmummy90 · 19/10/2019 23:59

You don't have to do it you know.

If you hate it, stop.

I would definitely be questioning his sexuality though.
And Ricky Martin had a wife and kids so that's no sign of heterosexuality.

Cherylshaw · 19/10/2019 23:59

i think you are hoping he's not gay but I would disagree...
not just because of the bum fun as each to their own but saying he wants to suck your dick after...
would be a no go for me

Mrsmummy90 · 20/10/2019 00:00

@QueefLatifah lmfao

Closetbeanmuncher · 20/10/2019 00:00

If you told me he wanted a finger in his bum there's plenty of straight guys who like that but come on now op he's gay in neon lights, and you're what is commonly referred to as a beard.

MrsBobBlackadder · 20/10/2019 00:00

Deletion message incoming in three, two, one...

Sadiesnakes · 20/10/2019 00:01

Yeah if this is legit, he's gay. There are some straight men that do enjoy their prostate massaged, but what he's asking you for is him fantasizing about being with men and not just a sensation.

Mumdiva99 · 20/10/2019 00:01

I thought you were going to break up with him last year. Didn't you leave?

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liliboard · 20/10/2019 00:02

Sorry if I posted this in the wrong catagory.
He says he doesn't imagine that it's an actual penis , but what else would he call it?
I don't expect anyone to really understand. I've been with him for 11 years and I don't. But I would like a little compassion rather than jokes

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kristallen · 20/10/2019 00:02

You're sexually incompatible as was highlighted when bum sex stopped and you were happy, he was not.

He's not going to change - and neither will you (nor should you try to, more than you already have).

Think very hard about whether you want this as your sex life forever, and whether in five years time when you've got no sex life left, you'll be fine finding out hers been getting bum thrills elsewhere.

Nowt wrong with what he or you like, but they simply can't work together.

C0untDucku1a · 20/10/2019 00:02

Posting for the deletion message.

Chocolate orange Grin

A little gay Grin

QueefLatifah · 20/10/2019 00:03

Is he called Terry

HollowTalk · 20/10/2019 00:04

Blimey.

PrincessHoneysuckle · 20/10/2019 00:04

Just choked on a steak McCoy's reading this

Candle1000 · 20/10/2019 00:05

I’ve x rayed someone once , who had an apple up their bum ! Core blimey !

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