My boyfriend likes to be fuc*ked up the bum!

[liliboard]

So this is a long one.

And note, I'm deadly serious.

So me and my partner have been together for 11 years. His sex drive is waaaaay higher than mine. Which is cool. But my partner loves anal. And I don't mean my bum! He likes me to fuck him in the bum with, well, anything. Dildo, carrot, orange, my fist.
This all started within a year of our relationship. He admitted he liked some bum stuff and it's just evolved. At first I didn't mind and was interested in the new and exciting sex stuff we were doing. But as time has gone on I have hated it more and more. Dreaded it every time. It's like a chore. I really hate it. When he talks about wanting to 'suck my dick after I've fucked his arse' and 'i want your spunk up me' whilst we're in the moment just puts me off him completely. We've had countless arguments over it and I've just ended up basically saying 'i don't like it but I'll do it because you do'. But it's honestly making me find him less sexually attractive. And I feel it's completely ruining how I feel about him. We've talked loads about it and we even stopped doing it for a while which made me happy but him sad!! He says it's his way of release and takes away stress. And I get that. But no matter how hard I try, I cannot get away from feeling distant from him. I don't believe he is gay. We've got 2 kids together and are engaged (although yes , I know it can still happen) but I think he's maybe a little bit gay? Bi? I dunno.
Anyway. Any advice would be really appreciated and if anyone likes this stuff too , please, let me know!!!

[YetAnotherBeckyMumsnet]

We're going to lock this now.

[gamerchick]

Love it when a bloke comes along to tell us about his bedroom antics on an ancient thread. Isn't creepy at all

[GonnaBeMaayy]

@topnoddy

Back on track .

I love being pegged with a strap on and have sucked a few dicks but doubt i'd go along with a real dick but hey you never know .
Just because a bloke likes this doesn't mean he's gay

I'd class myself as mostly straight but bi sometimes

At the end of the day sex is sex , whatever turns ya boat .

Doesn’t matter if it’s back on track. This is a zombie thread. It is from 2019.

RTFT

[JaneJeffer]

<hides thread>

[topnoddy]

Back on track .

I love being pegged with a strap on and have sucked a few dicks but doubt i'd go along with a real dick but hey you never know .
Just because a bloke likes this doesn't mean he's gay

I'd class myself as mostly straight but bi sometimes

At the end of the day sex is sex , whatever turns ya boat .

[Simon12]

Inspired!!

[JaneJeffer]

It's in your buuuum, in your buuu uuu uh um
Zombie zombie zombie

[GonnaBeMaayy]

@IHateLegDay

What were you searching to find a 3 year old thread about bum sex? 😂😂😂

Just what I was thinking 😂😂😂



ZOMBIE THREAD.
ZOMBIE
ZOMBIE
ZOMBIEEEE

[lilkitten]

I know a lot of guys who like it (DP included), it's a kink community so we're pretty open-minded. I don't think all of them would say they're anything but straight, as a lot of them get a kick out of it being a woman, but the majority of us identify as queer, bi, pan, heteroflexible etc. The crux of it is that you're not enjoying it. I get a kick out of pegging and being in control, but if you're not then it's best to address it with him. This is particularly what a lot of men go to pro-dommes for, one of my friends does as his GF is not into it but happy for him to see someone else for it.

[vodkaredbullgirl]

JFC was I really on this thread back then, it popped up on my list.

[IHateLegDay]

What were you searching to find a 3 year old thread about bum sex? 😂😂😂

[Thehop]

I really hope everything went well for you OP

[Motoko]

OP hasn't been back to the thread since October. No point replying and asking questions now.

[SnakeRattleRoll]

Could you try pegging him, if you don't already? You can get some that have a bit that enters you as well to make it mutually enjoyable.

[MissPepper8]

Still s poo hole. Yuck!

Jesus christ how old are you?! Grow up

Doesn't make him gay, some people have fantasies, he might be bi sexual and he might not ever want to act on it either! Just because he enjoys prostate stimulation and the act of anal sex does not make him gay. Totally close minded or what.

[Isohungy]

Are you ok OP?

[lilgreen]

Still s poo hole. Yuck!

[xpc316e]

lilgreen, your opinions are obviously based on a lack of knowledge. Being gay is decided not by the sexual practices one finds pleasure in, but by the gender of the person whom one chooses to be with when having sex.

There are hordes of men out there who enjoy having some back door action, but only when done by their female partner - therefore they are heterosexual.

As for who would want to 'put anything up a poo hole', well the anus and rectum are very richly supplied with nerves and stimulation of them can be intensely pleasurable. Also a man's prostate gland can give him super-powerful orgasms when properly stimulated - men will often describe a prostate orgasm as being ten times better than a regular one achieved through penile stimulation. If you could have an orgasm that was 10 x better wouldn't you want some?

Just because anal play is not for you, don't think that everyone should be the same. Open your mind to the possibility that oranges are not the only fruit.

[lilgreen]

The comments more than the acts. Though why someone wants to put anything up a poo hole is beyond me.

[lilgreen]

He’s gay.

[xpc316e]

Peachslice well done for so far having the courage to be open-minded and help your partner explore anal and prostate stimulation.

There is an amazing website called Pegging Paradise. The woman who runs it, Ruby Ryder, is a veritable mine of decent information and she is a really wise woman when it comes to all aspects of sexuality. She does podcasts on pegging and the most useful is Number 112 which she created specifically for women whose men want to be anally stimulated. She talks about why this might be a need, whether he might be gay, or bi-sexual, and lots of other details. I recommend you sit down with your man and listen to it together.

Here is the address:
peggingparadise.com/?s=podcast+112

You may have to create an account in order to access the podcast.

Best wishes.

[Jane1978xx]

@Peachslice enjoying some anal
Play as part of a range of sexual activities does not make someone gay at all.

[Peachslice]

Hi
I read this with interest. I’ve been dating a guy exclusively for 5 months now. We waited a month till we started having sex and now have it all the time, I’d had a dry spell for a good few years and now I’m literally wanting it all the time, he has high sex drive to match. Early on he played around with my bum a little bit and I then reciprocated with him. He’s expressed an interest in Pegging, which is becoming I read a growing sexual activity for some straight couples, it’s where the woman wears a strap on to shag the bloke.
We’ve so far messed around with a slim vibrator up his bum, and he likes it a lot, the prostrate is up there . And here’s my issue, it was kind of hot seeing him enjoy it but at the same time it’s causing a red flag. Where does it lead on to...we were very drunk whilst having sex the other night and he chose to stop having sex with me and ask me to use the vibrator on him (he’d given me a lot of oral sex at the start of the session). I’ve asked him a few times if he is bi curious, to which he says no, he plays rugby and says he thinks he wouldn’t have an issue if he was bi in terms of people knowing. Not sure what point is but I guess I hope he is being honest.

[PeachesPlumsPears]

I was horrified when I read your original post and when you were teased. You are very brave. Stay strong.