Anal sex

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DH and I have talked about it. We'd like to give it a go. What do I need to know about it? Do we use a condom? Any other wise words? Thanks.

I'm in the same place, so I know little, but I did read this yesterday....

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I think it's love it or hate it. I enjoy the animalistic style of it but does make me worry about going to the loo so I try and ensure I've been beforehand. For me, great fun but not intimate unless your partner can do it whilst you are lying down on your back, him kneeling in front, but this takes practice. I like that position.

Well it’s been a while for me..... you need tons of lube, condoms will help in terms of moving from anal back to vaginal ( otherwise he should be washing himself thoroughly). You might want to try anal toys beforehand to get used to the sensation. I’m not keen on them cumming in me for reasons that might be obvious. When he first penetrates he needs to be really slow and let you get used to the sensation first before gradually entering you. Porn actresses incidentally don’t eat for 24 hours before filming and douche a lot before shooting a scene. You will obviously want to wash as thoroughly as possible. Good luck.... I think it feels great.

Hey, not sure if this is helpful but my DH has always wanted it.
I did some reading and we started with a finger, then 2, then butt plugs and upped the sizes.
It's not been a constant thing (not for me anyways) and a finger or 2 can be enjoyable if you're getting some clit/vaginal stimulation too.
Finally managed to get his penis in my anus (all these words are making me cringe, sorry) we've never managed to get him inside in the doggy position but managed it with my feet by my head while lying on my back.
He went slow and it was quite painful, but he is quite big and I managed to get through it till he came.
I personally didn't enjoy it because of the pain which wasnt super intense but it wasnt comfortable either, and ridiculously some feelings of me feeling both dirty and whoreish afterwards which is definitely some internal bullshit I need to work on.
I do think as I enjoy the fingers it is something I might enjoy eventually but for now we're back to smaller anatomy.
I am prudish and I'm trying to work through it. Also DH isn't squeamish and has always cleaned all the sex toys when we're done so I know if anything is going to be messy down there, he can definitely handle it.

Lots of lube and I would use a condom, infections etc encase he was to go back inside you.

It’s not for everyone. I am occasional participant with someone l unreservedly trust. For starters, if it hurts you are not doing it right!

Lube, lube, lube, lube, lube, then try all fours. Be in control, stay in control and slowly back on to your partner after some finger stimulation. Stay in your own comfort zone. It is important he remains fairly passive. If you are with a man who has the misguided notion that any form of sex is about vigorous thrusting, it is not going to work.

Yes lube lube lube , but also I recommend from experience get a bulb douche (around £12) , just for peace of mind, before you start. For a first time , some positions are better than others. dont be on top as you naturally close, and doggy is easy to get painfully wrong. Both can be great with experience. Spoons works well, or a 'legs by ears' position if you can make sure his weight isn't pushing in more by default.

I'm not an anal fan, but it seems to be the done thing nowadays. Some advice!

Water based lube is a must if you're using toys or condoms (Liquid Silk from Amazon is what I use).
If you're not using a condom or are using metal or glass toys, Backdoor by Pjur is brill.

Douching is a good shout. Use lube on yourself and the nozzle, and only squirt a little bit up at a time to ensure you don't stir any 💩 out from further up that isn't ready yet (and won't be reached by your partner during penetration anyway).

If you're happy to do some "training" on your own, Amazon do a great and easy to use set of plugs in varying widths to get you used to the sensation and stretch you a bit. Let me know if you'd like me to post a link

Oh man, the thought makes me feel queasy.

What about poo on the dick..?

And how do you remove the smell??

That area surely even if there's no poo waiting in the wings contains poo scented mucus?
So, the dick will come out coated in poo scented mucus?

Many years ago an ex was very insistent about a finger up there, I stupidly obliged after much pestering and will never forget it emerging with poo stuck in my nail and the frequent crazed washing to get rid of the smell.
I must have soaped and scrubbed at least 5 times to remove any hint of poo smell.

Feel sick even thinking back to it!
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Try watching these. They are both informative and hilarious.