Will he lose respect for me if I...

[CherryTreeLane]

...have anal sex with him?

Possible new partner, in our 40s. I’ve never had anal sex before but I’m so so attracted to this man that I just want him ‘everywhere’!

If I have anal sex with him will he discount me as a possible long term relationship? Is there a myth that good girls don’t have anal sex?

Have you discussed your preferences, if so, this might come up as something you may wish to try and take it from there,.

If he wants to try it, crack on, if he doesn't, never mind - it shouldn't make him feel any different towards you.

I'd feel that it was a huge compliment if a woman wanted me 'everywhere', and there is no way that my respect for her would be diminished by her desire to have anal sex.

Times change albeit slowly. There was a time when it was thought good girls don’t have sex per se. Let alone anal sex. Then there was a belief that married women only had sex for procreation or to please their husbands. Interesting how “good girls’ changed to “married women” too!

Any man who has lost respect for a woman due to any form of sex is not wortk keeping around.

But you have posted elsewhere about the same time that you have yet to have sex with this man. I strongly suggest you learn to walk before you try to run.

We talk about sex a lot but in a flirty abstract way. We haven’t spoken about sex with each other yet but I feel like I could talk to him about anything, including wanting him everywhere!

That’s really good to hear xpc316e.

Absolutely agree that I need to take things a step at a time. Currently my imagination is running wild over this guy!

Thanks everyone.

That was such a funny unintentional pun from a pp "if he wants to try it, crack on" hilarious!!

Sorry, didn't mean to sound flippant about ops genuine question, it just amused me