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Threesome fantasy..........advise pliz

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Bug8 · 23/01/2019 01:43

My boyfriend and I have always had amazing sex, we have been dating for 11 months which I feel is way too early to be thinking of spicing things up considering our sex life is really good, we have lots of it when together. He started fantasising abt a threesome (MFF) one time when we were having sex and I went along with it. I am heterosexual but I do at times enjoy the fantasy of female to female fun but I wouldn't go out seeking it. Since the fantasy was going well, boyfriend suggested that maybe we do it for real, he confessed it turns him on so much but I feel we should just keep it as a fantasy. I am worried it will negatively impact or even end our relationship that's going so well at the moment. To make matters worse, boyfriend seems to want threesomes to be our thing that we can engage in once a week/ once a month or whenever we feel like it, I personally think out of curiosity, if I went for it, it would be a one time experience and that's it. And his suggestion for finding our third is online and go on a threeway date to see if we all connect (find the attraction between the three of us, am not comfortable with the fact that he has to be attracted to our third). I am confused and think it will all end badly if we go ahead with it and at the moment am enjoying what we have........just us. Is there anyone who has been through this, had a threesome with a partner/ boyfriend/ husband, pliz advise, I really need it.............

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Namechangedyorkshire · 23/01/2019 06:39

I would suggest you think very carefully. A few years ago before I married and met my DH, I was on holiday with then boyfriend and another couple sharing a villa. We had a few drinks one lunch and ended up playing cards which ended up messing around in a form of strip poker fun. It ended up getting sexual and whilst nervous I was a willing participant. Whilst not a threesome like you are thinking of, the dynamics are similar. I must admit it was all very exciting but I don't think many women cannot feel some pangs when seeing their DP with another woman, especially when seeing him really intimate with her as I did watching him penetrate her and have a really massive orgasm.

He however loved seeing me with the other guy as well as his GF who really happily joined in and was my first experience of being with another woman.

Do I regret it? Not can't say I do. It was wild and amazing experience but I see it as a one off and definitely would not have carried on as a regular experience. I most definitely would not invite another woman into my bedroom now as I could not cope with seeing what he did with her.

Be careful what you wish for. It may go well as a one off but he wants it to be ongoing, and whilst I have read about such couples where it works, I've never known anyone (not that surprising I guess)

How does he feel about it being MMF? Would he be as keen?

Bug8 · 23/01/2019 09:35

NamechangedYorkshire, thanks a lot for yo advise. He has said to me to tell him if I don't want to do this and am thinking of telling him I just want it as a fantasy.......I think for now at least. I did bring up MMF threesome and he said that didn't do anything for him at all.

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xpc316e · 23/01/2019 10:23

What a surprise that a MMF threesome did nothing for him. For me, sex is all about giving pleasure to your partner and from that I get amazing satisfaction myself. It's the same for my partner, so being selfish doesn't enter into it for us. Your boyfriend wanting a MFF experience smacks of being selfish, especially when what is sauce for goose isn't sauce for the gander.

My advice would be to keep it as a fantasy (despite the fact that I was in a great long-term MMF threesome myself).

Bug8 · 23/01/2019 12:51

Xpc316e, thanks for yo advise.

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HustleRussell · 23/01/2019 20:17

Sorry but he sounds like a twat. So he doesn't want MMF as he will feel insecure of being out performed...

princessTiasmum · 23/01/2019 22:23

The very fact that he wants to have a threesome would put me off HIM to start with, and no bet he doesnt find MMF turns him on, its all about his pleasure if you ask me

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