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How often to have sex? Market research

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Applecrumble79 · 19/12/2018 08:42

I’m 38. Have a child and work a stressful full time job often working late and doing many more hours than 37.5. My partner would have sex all day everyday if he could!! What is the general consensous on here?

I’m happy to have it 2/3 times a week. I’m often just knackered at the end of the day and sometimes just can’t be bothered. I often get a prod at 3am annoyingly. I have low iron levels and quite frankly need my beauty sleep.

I find my partners attitude to sex selfish as when he’s on earlys he likes to ensure he is in bed early etc. Or when he has a task the following day will not let me interfere with it. I get annoyed when he tries to intercept my plans for a leg over.

Advice pls?

OP posts:
busybarbara · 19/12/2018 10:22

As often or as little as you want. There's not an official quota you have to fulfill for a nagging husband.

OneToThree · 19/12/2018 16:58

Once a week. Only do it when I want to, never just to make dh happy. If he prodded me at 3am I’d be prodding him a lot harder back!!

Grandmasterflush · 19/12/2018 20:32

Around every 12-14 months nths

ConfusedDH · 19/12/2018 23:39

Married, two pre-teens.

I would like it most days.
My wife now has zero libido, so effectively never.

AloneLonelyLoner · 21/12/2018 13:31

My dh and I almost never have sex (annually maybe). It has always depressed me and after 20 years together I am not really interested in him and resent him.

Springmachine · 22/12/2018 12:30

@AloneLonelyLoner

I read that as anally BlushGrin

AloneLonelyLoner · 22/12/2018 14:44

HAHAHAHAHAHA not even that sadly.

TomorrowsPrincess · 22/12/2018 21:31

36, 5 dc's age from 3years to 17.... we have it more or less every night. Sometimes twice on a weekend. Partner is 35, works long hours but has a high sex drive. I am happy to have it as often as he likes. He doesn't mind having the odd night off if I'm tired.

Easilyflattered · 22/12/2018 22:06

38, kids aged 6 and 9. Once a week on average. Average takes into account summer holiday bursts of activity and periods of injury/illness when one half hasn't been up for it.

I'm assuming we're actually having quite a decent amount so answers will be interesting!

zarek · 23/12/2018 17:30

Early 50s, DW 5 years younger, two teenage kids. Once a week, mainly at weekends or a days holiday when the kids are at school. I would still like to do it daily to be honest, but am quite happy with things as they are. I think for guys knowing when its going to happen and you partner having some enthusiasm are the important things. The 3am nudge seems a bit unreasonable to me. Young kids and work stress are real sex life killers in my experience.

malc1975 · 23/12/2018 23:21

Early 40's
1 4 yr old
once or twice a week usually occasionally when life takes over it can be a couple of weeks we can usually tell as we start bickering over silly things

A good fumble usually reconnects us

Mynameisntmaud · 28/12/2018 18:18

It will be 2 years in April...Sad

Nuffaluff · 28/12/2018 18:43

2-3 times a week, usually 3. We’re both happy with this.

rumpler · 28/12/2018 22:30

1-2 per month these days which is a lot more than the last few years. Still a lot less than I’d like, and frankly a bit dull too.

NameChangeNugget · 28/12/2018 23:33

In my mid 50’s & 2-3 times per week. Would like more though

JKCR2017 · 02/01/2019 19:07

Once a week (it has been less than this 😬) if we manage it between work and being shattered. On top of getting the kids to bed!! Fortunately though myself and the OH have similar sex drives. He seems pretty okay it.

Neither of us have ever been the type to have sex every night. Hats off to any couples who manage it. I am too shattered 🤣😴😬

MarieG10 · 03/01/2019 06:55

2-3 times a week, although more at weekends. If on holiday or a weekend away (Especially minus kids) then it really revs up a lot. Hubby has a good sex drive and I love knowing he really wants and desires me

Strongecoffeeismydrug · 23/04/2019 18:29

At least 7times a week .
We both have high sex drives

StarlightLady · 25/04/2019 07:46

40s.

I would say 2-3, occasionally 4 times, usually over a weekend, which includes a Friday evening. Perhaps every day or thereabouts if on holiday.

But hardly ever duriing the working week. I get too tired.

I would not be coerced into having sex if too tired either. The passion has to be shared.

FinnGermey · 26/04/2019 11:56

Mid 40s, two pre teens in the house. Usually average 3 times a month, so once on the weekend every week when there is no period. Rarely happens in the week as too late to bed & I am up at 6.15am for work. I would like more, even just a quickie one night but my DW has to be in bed early for it too happen and with young children that just doesn't happen Monday-Thursday. Frequency increases on holiday when all the stresses of daily life are removed

wishywashy6 · 26/04/2019 17:49

37 - 2 DC's (6&9) although my partner is not their father
Sex is 1/2 times a day usually instigated 50/50
It's whatever you're happy with though, no rules

Tinkerbellx · 27/04/2019 00:00

48 and DP 43 . 4 dc ages 27 to 8 .
On average most nights..... not always a long sessions but a lovely way to re connect as we both have stressful full time jobs .

StarlightLady · 27/04/2019 08:33

Correction to my previous post: l meant 2-3, maybe 4 times a week not a day!

lou132 · 04/05/2019 17:31

daily, if not twice a day most days.

3 DS,s ages 7-12

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