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AintNobodyHereButUsChickens · 22/10/2018 11:48

So I've always thought I was straight as a ruler, not interested in women at all etc etc. But the past year or so I've been... curious. DH and I are swingers and we often go to a sex club, sometimes alone, sometimes together. I went alone earlier this year and I met a couple who I really clicked with, we had a great laugh and I felt really comfortable with them. We just chatted that evening and nothing happened, and I never saw them again until last weekend when I went alone again. I saw them, we chatted for a while and things were just as comfortable as before. Long story short, I ended up having sex with the husband and the wife watched. She is bisexual but I declined to 'play' with her too because I know my husband would be upset if he missed my first time with a woman (it's something he's always wanted to be a part of).

Anyway, my husband and I are going together this Friday and this couple will be there too. If things go as comfortably as before and we take things further, I will likely end up having sex with the woman too. But the problem is, I don't know how to do it with a woman Blush What do I do? And how?? The couple are really nice and they know I've never done it before so I daresay she would guide me but I don't want to go in completely clueless. I mean, I know how I like it, but what if she doesn't like stuff the way I do? Aargh this feels like such a minefield Confused please can someone advise me? My husband's a bit useless, he just says do stuff the way I like it doing...

That was a bit longer than I meant it to be Blush I just wanted to give some backstory and hopefully not come across as troll-y. I've been here since 2011 so HQ can clarify if you do feel the need to report me though.

OP posts:
maccax · 22/10/2018 16:01

Honestly, be natural, follow your instinct, but most of all, don't put pressure on yourself to perform. She'll love it and guide you as she wishes. Enjoy!

HmmGrey · 04/11/2018 17:10

How did it go?

pretzelflipzaretheanswer · 13/11/2018 10:12

I remember freaking out with my first time (not the same circumstances) with a woman, but honestly, it just tends to flow and happen instinctively. I think women are much more in tune with one another.

mazylou · 15/11/2018 14:21

Cut your nails.

debs307 · 17/11/2018 19:25

I have pretty much similar story to OP from a long time ago but just try it. It's very different to being with a man but very sensual and satisfying.

Hawkins001 · 23/04/2022 21:13

AintNobodyHereButUsChickens · 22/10/2018 11:48

So I've always thought I was straight as a ruler, not interested in women at all etc etc. But the past year or so I've been... curious. DH and I are swingers and we often go to a sex club, sometimes alone, sometimes together. I went alone earlier this year and I met a couple who I really clicked with, we had a great laugh and I felt really comfortable with them. We just chatted that evening and nothing happened, and I never saw them again until last weekend when I went alone again. I saw them, we chatted for a while and things were just as comfortable as before. Long story short, I ended up having sex with the husband and the wife watched. She is bisexual but I declined to 'play' with her too because I know my husband would be upset if he missed my first time with a woman (it's something he's always wanted to be a part of).

Anyway, my husband and I are going together this Friday and this couple will be there too. If things go as comfortably as before and we take things further, I will likely end up having sex with the woman too. But the problem is, I don't know how to do it with a woman Blush What do I do? And how?? The couple are really nice and they know I've never done it before so I daresay she would guide me but I don't want to go in completely clueless. I mean, I know how I like it, but what if she doesn't like stuff the way I do? Aargh this feels like such a minefield Confused please can someone advise me? My husband's a bit useless, he just says do stuff the way I like it doing...

That was a bit longer than I meant it to be Blush I just wanted to give some backstory and hopefully not come across as troll-y. I've been here since 2011 so HQ can clarify if you do feel the need to report me though.

apologies i know its a zombie op, but after reading your most recent thread on swinging, i wondered how this went ?

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