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Sex post baby

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Anna2006 · 12/06/2018 23:22

I had DD 4 months ago and unlike some women postpartum very much feel like I want to have sex with DH.

Apart from the issue is it blood hurts. Pain with deep penetration.

I had a bad tear, 3rd degree & episiotomy so stiff was extensively altered. I do feel like my entrance is a tad tighter an now with sex get a small cut/tear at the bottom of my entrance at 6 o clock after every attempt with then stings. It heals up after a few days but I would then have to avoid anything in there area until it heals.

Really hoping these issues can resolve and I can enjoy my sex life again. DH has been really good about it but it’s getting me down!

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Isitwinteryet · 14/06/2018 20:35

I was the same. 8 months pp it's back to normal for me.

FirstTimeMummaB · 16/06/2018 21:49

4 months is still quite early days IMO
I did feel the same though, my mind was willing but my body was not!! I had an episiotomy too and a ventouse delivery, no 3rd degree tear but still took a long time for me to heal. 7 months pp now and things definitely feel a lot better, up until about 6 months pp I just found penetration was absolute agony. Give it time and don’t rush x

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Anna2006 · 19/06/2018 10:22

@FirstTimeMummaB thanks for your reply. I think it doesn’t help I don’t seem to produce any arousal fluid/lubrication down there anymore. I bottle fed from day one and medical professionals keep telling me it’s hormonal but I had an extensive repair done and things were changed about so I’m not so sure.

I feel aroused and internally I have some lubrication but there will be absolutely nothing at my entrance. It’s all very bizarre and frustrating!!

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itsbetterthanabox · 19/06/2018 14:55

Lube.
Also as it's still early try doing non penetrative stuff.
Oral, hands, toys

Verbena87 · 21/06/2018 20:43

My episiotomy scar was tight, itchy and achy til about 7 months pp, but now (9 months) I hardly know it’s there.

About 6 months someone suggested massaging the scar with body safe oil (I used grape seed, olive would work too) daily and this seemed to really help it feel more normal.

FirstTimeMummaB · 22/06/2018 20:35

I second lube. Plenty of it. Makes a massive difference! Just keep a towel handy as things got a bit messy for us the first few times 😳😂😂

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