Woman on top

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My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. In this time I've done my very very best to avoid being on top during sex.

I'm mortified. I don't know how

I don't know what the hell im supposed to do up there. I've tried bouncing but my legs end up aching. I've heard about "rocking" but I've no idea what to do. Surely he won't go in and out if I do that?!

It's so embarrassing for me. I don't know how to move!!!

Oh I always rock lol. For me, it gets the best results ;-) always helps if dh is sitting up but resting against the bed too. He sort of holds me down with his hands on my bum, works wonders for me. You should really let go and try it as it gives you so much control, it's the only position I can climax in if I'm honest. A lot of of women would say the same I bet. It doesn't matter if what you do isn't pleasurable for him either, it's just about him. Most men like women on top because they know the woman is in control and she's enjoying doing whatever it is she's doing

Try watching some porn for ideas of best positions and techniques. Enthusiasm is generally the most important thing and will make up for any lack of experience.

I’m not a fan on going on top, I find it tricky and can never climax . I only do it to give him pleasure so I do enjoy seeing his face and being in control but it doesn’t do much for me.

I just don't get "rocking". I know how silly this sounds but I don't understand the technique.

I could watch porn to get an idea though!

Rocking is just rocking back and forth rather than rising up and down.

You could always lean forward so its a bit like you are on all 4’s

I mostly avoid it as it does very little for me! Agree rocking is easier than up & down.

Well you can rock (not so good), do it on your knees or squat on your feet if you are fit. Reverse cowgirl is very good as you can also get a cheeky finger :}

I pretend that I'm actually riding a horse, doing a lovely rising trot

I also find that leaning forward and using my hips alone to move up and down, works really well.

Get him to tilt his pelvis up, then lean right back. Grab onto each other's arms to steady yourself and then grind.

Grind. Very satisfying. With the odd rise and fall to keep him in the game... ;-)

You could do what Mrs. B used to do, which was lie on top rather than sitting, and grind against my cock without actual PIV, so she was basically just using me for masturbatory purposes. Having said that, when she was on the upstroke I’d try to angle things so that PIV would happen on the downstroke. This wouldn’t interrupt her rhythm and she’d still grind hard against me at the bottom of her stroke, and clench her kagels on the upstroke, which was very pleasant for me too. She had really intense orgasms by this method.