How do I make a better choice of partner?

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I am single, I seperated from along term partner a year ago. Missing sex, but not wanting anything very serious, I've used dating apps to meet men. They've all been apparently clueless when it comes to women's bodies and sex! I'm left really frustrated. I don't have sex on a first date to try and get to know them a bit, and am always encouraging or assertive about what I like, but nevertheless they just seem unable or unwilling to make it good for me. Is there a way to suss them our more in advance and make better choices? What am I doing wrong? Help!

At the risk of sounding obvious if they don't take a genuine interest in listening over that cappuccino or over that romantic dinner date then they are equally unlikely to listen in the bedroom either. Good lovers are usually good listeners both in the bedroom and outside it too..

You can't know what someone's going to be like in bed until you go to bed with them.

Finding someone who you truly connect with and have chemistry with is the way to go.