So I am on Fetlife. Have been for 3 1/2. Seen all sorts on there. Experienced all sorts. It can be a dark and dangerous place for the new sub. I am also a BDSM writer - non-fiction - write about abuse.
Anyway, like many I post pictures. Many. In my time on there I have received hundreds and hundreds of comments on them. Thousands of loves. All positive and dare I say it? Not that many that are obscene. In my time, I have only ever deleted two - one was rude and the other one was vulgar.
So imagine my surprise this morning when after popping myself down to attend a local munch. I received this on one.
Should I feel bad that my first thought was to imagine a big dollop of cum trickling between your breasts?
Now that is bad. Even for fetlife. But when I checked his profile out, that was when I got worried. Somehow, I had crossed his feed - no idea how - he had then saw that I was down for the munch, joined it himself and had then come back and posted that.
So this is the first time this has happened to me. And it has shaken me. The local community have never ceased to be utterly kind, friendly and charming. And polite.
Luckily, I knew the munch organiser and he has helped me today (and is now super happy that he has done his white knight thing.) The nefarious commentator has been sent away with massive flea in ear. And has obviously been named and shamed. The thought of trying to relax in a pub with him gawping at me like a deranged loon has seriously icked me.
So I'm guessing that I needed to share this. Because it IS rare and also it shows the strength of the local community when it comes to keeping local munches safe.
Looking for positive comments and not 'told you so's' you nest of vipers you 
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