Initiating sex

[michone]

Can I just ask how sex is generally initiated? Having kids the only time we ever can really do it is after they asleep so it always seems to be one of us suggesting it or preplanning it which means it's never spontaneous

Always planned, 2 reasons:-

First because DW never spontaneous feels like sex, she enjoys it when we have sex and orgams almost every time but never feels a want for it or missed it if we don't have any.

Secondly I have ED so I use Viagra. Which takes an hour to work and, for me, can be rendered useless if I've eaten too recently.

it always seems to be one of us suggesting it [...] which means it's never spontaneous

How is one of you suggesting it not being spontaneous?

If you want there to be less talk and more action then why not just roll over in bed, say "I'm horny", and start stroking his cock?

NotTheFordType you beat me to it.
We plan ours to a point. But when ever the urge gets me I'll do exactly that! Roll over stroke his cock! He's never ever said NO

I literally look my husband in the eyes and say let's have sex. Simple as that.

I tend to grab his dick and tell him he's needed.