Does anyone else orgasm by squeezing their legs together? Help needed!

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So the way that I make myself come is by lying on my side, squeezing my kegels and my thighs together and sort of rocking rhythmically. I've never been able to come by direct stimulation, either myself or with a partner or with toys. I either feel nothing at all or it is way too sensitive and hurts.
My DH and I gave up on trying because it became counter intuitive (too much pressure on me to come meant that it was not going to happen and just put me off sex). But lately I want to get back in to trying to orgasm with DH again.
I know I have to stop doing this leg squeezing thing and retrain my body to orgasm in a different way. So what I'd like to know is - if anyone else is able to orgasm in this leg squeezing way, as well as with manual stimulation, what is it that they do? I mean is there a certain position that works well? I think I must be wired differently from most women because so many people say they come through oral sex but honestly I either feel nothing or it is way too sensitive. So what could work for someone who usually comes through leg squeezing?!!
Also how long does it usually take? I've tried various things but I just get bored and also my skin can end up feeling sore. Plus I know that by doing the leg squeezing thing I can come in a couple of minutes (or less!) so I just give up and do that!
I can get close by manual stimulation now but it always gets to a point where my legs involuntarily clamp together and my / DH's hand gets crushed and is unable to move!
Please tell me someone else has had this and has overcome it!

Also I do have to say 'please go slower' but if you phrase it 'please go slow it drives me wild!' You aren't saying 'hmm you are doing this wrong' - it's just how you phrase it

Albadross Thanks for the picture. And yep for me it varies over my menstrual cycle too. That's pretty new to me because I've spent so long being on the pill and then pregnancies and breastfeeding but I actually really like it. The peak mid cycle is worth the dip later on!

Kikikaakaa I hadn't even heard of orgasm gels so I'll have to look them up! Yep, what you said about the slow moves makes a lot of sense! Thanks!

I like the durex ones, the O one and the tingle gel. I put them on before we get into it and also during and they do give a pleasant feeling

Thanks!
It's been really helpful writing this and getting everyone's replies. I wasn't thinking about spooning (even though that's the position I'm in when I'm on my own!) because when I've seen that position in magazines (like when I used to read More as a teenager!) they describe it as slow and sensual and that sounds so boring to me! My head and body must be totally out of tune with each other!

I always used to masturbate by pressing my thighs together and realised that I was never going to be able to come with a partner if I carried on like that. So I just stopped doing what I had always done and retrained myself to come by rubbing my clitoris. I took time to wean myself off, but not really that long once I had committed to not doing it the 'natural ' way.

Joystir59 Good to know it's possible! Does it feel different? And would you say the thigh squeezing way is still your "natural" way or are you totally converted now?!

Life you I can come in minutes by squeezing my thighs together and slowly wriggling.
Dh and I have found a few ways that help us to really climax together, but it was definitely trial and error. Spooning with dh's pressing his erection against my bottom with the tip just entering my vagina, lots of long slow movements.
For full penetrative sex dh kneels and I lie on my back, both legs together over his left shoulder with me squeezing my thighs together and increasing the pace.
Finally if well lubricated dh slips three fingers inside me and curves his hand slightly allowing me to press thighs together and rock myself to climax. Dh often masturbates at the same time if laying behind me or I give him oral sex if he kneels before me... this definitely heightens my orgasm.

I can come like you op too. But I can also with piv ( missionary) with hubby too but, he has to press on my vagina with his upper pubic bone and go deep and slow - when I start to feel the build up to orgasm, hard or slow is ok. But initially it has to be a slow grinding, pressing manoeuvre. You aren't weird, your ex was.

Thanks so much ChristmasEvePJs and Patchouli666. I can't tell you how good it is to hear that other people can orgasm this way and also with a partner. Posting here has really helped my confidence!

Have you tried missionary but with your legs together, his legs on the outside of yours? There's something about everything being pressed together that will make me come really quickly like that. And you can say "don't move, just hold that there" and he gets a rest, lol, plus the teasing of you squeezing him.