Swinging advice for novices

[Anonforagoodreason]

Ok, OH and I have been talking about pushing our boundaries a bit and involving other people

Not sure whether we will actually pluck up the nerve to go through with it, but practically speaking, where do we start and how do we find people who will gently introduce us to this?

We've talked about the possibility of clubs, but this terrifies me as I'm overweight and not body confident. (I am size 16-18)

Any advice gratefully received, just not sure how to take this forward. Thanks!

Take a look on fetlife. There are folks from all walks of life there. Good luck

Adulthub

Thank you, will look those up. Am scared but excited too! New beginnings for us I think. Has anyone regretted it? My worry is it will backfire somehow. OH is quite torn - he wants to see other couples but not sure if he wants to share.

If you go to a club I'm sure there is no pressure to share, just watch or be together...

They have events on AH advertised.

You could just start by chatting to other couples there online once you've set up a profile, then move to something like camera to camera once you've met people you trust?

You can state your preferences in your profile, for example if you are bi curious and would be interested in being with the other woman.

There are couples who just want to get together with another couple and watch each other without swapping. Usually known as "same room non swap"

fabswingers is the most popular in the uk.
you can meet people through the site, they have forums to discuss any questions or worries and they also have a club list with reviews so you can get a feel for the place before you go.

Thanks all. Will have a look together at all 3 sites tonight. I guess we also need to discuss boundaries and things now before we start chatting to people. I don't think either of us have much idea about what we're ok with until we start participating, but it would be good to have a starting place.

You really need to know your limits and be comfortable with what you are doing.

Trust is hugely important here.

Good luck OP!

Fabswingers is the only site worth joining. Clubs are full of lovely normal sized women (same as you see in your local pub or supermarket) same for the gents. Suggest you join the site and look at the forums. What part of the UK are you? Clubs and socials are great. Socials are vanilla, clubs not! You can just go and have a nosy at a club. Don't rush into anything though. Slow is good.

fab is a good site. We went to a few socials but weren't particularly attracted to an entire couple.

We just go to Playa Del Ingles now and occasionally hit the clubs there after a few - just an in the moment thing and happy with not getting into it at home!

Fetlife is for fetish scene rather than swinging. They crossover but not sure that's what you want if it's just swinging that interests you

Another vote for FabSwingers. They have a very active forum so you can ask questions there and get answers from people who are living the lifestyle.

And don't worry about your weight! I'm bigger than you. Never been a problem. I'm damn sexy!

Fabswingers! I'm not on there anymore but it's got a real friendly vibe to it. The forums are excellent and there are exhaustive reviews of clubs. I was nervous about going to my first club due to my body hangups (the club was Le Boudoir near Whitechapel) but it was honestly really fun; swingers tend to be very friendly people, and newbies are just as welcome as seasoned swingers.

Have fun!

Couplesgowild is somewhere i have been satisfying my swinging curiosity , on there as a single female and enjoy lots of attention and have recently met up with a couple