How to recover from death-grip?

[Hairyspiderlegs]

Newish partner was on his own for a long time & developed a bit of a death-grip habit. It's taken him time to get used to piv again & we're not doing bad, but he often needs to finish by hand, very hard, very vigorously. No vagina could compete with that kind of tightness! Any suggestions to recover ability to climax piv?

If he wants to recover from it he just has to not wank, not finish himself off and wait till the excitement builds enough to come 'properly'.

But he might not want to do the above

Dan Savage has written about death grip on a number of occasions:-

www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=14968

clclt.com/charlotte/death-grip-be-not-proud/Content?oid=2774249

But basically, what Laurie said.

What Laurie said. Tell him to stop wanking.

If he does stop wanking, any idea how long it might take to resume normal service?

Depends on age, younger men get hornier quicker. - so under 35 probably within a week or two. Maybe even in a couple of days if he's really young and wanks often.

He's in his 50s but said he used to wank daily (before me)

Then I would say longer as his cock will be fairly hardened to being bashed.

When could he last come in a vagina? If it's years ago then longer still.

No porn and no wanking. Can take a month (or more depending on how long death gripping has been occurring) to start seeing any improvement.

It took DP the first year of our relationship to reverse the damage done by the death grip. I literally could not finish him off myself no matter what I tried.

The first time he came during a BJ even he said, 'fucking hell, that's never happened!' and I felt like a rockstar