Im not getting enough sex

[dustarr73]

Just that.Going through a dry spell with oh.

It's not like a vitamin deficiency. You won't get rickets or anything. Want to give us more context?

Ah he seems to have gone off it.I have tried it all.I miss the intimacy and sex.

Has anything else changed?

No hes saying hes tired from work but hes doing the same hours as always.

Well, it's usually a sign of something going wrong. How long have you been together?

25 yearsand we have our share of crap but we always had sex.I just feel pushed out.

Are you getting any intimacy in ways other than sex?

Have you talked to each other about it?

Maintaining a good sex life over a long term relationship takes effort for most couples. Not hard effort, just a commitment that it is important and requires time. Sometimes life gets in the way so priorities get mixed up. It's not difficult to fix if both people want to, but it needs talking about.

Sorry to be pessimistic but men don't go off sex. They find it elsewhere. Porn, paid sex, OW....

Once the intimacy is lost it's hard to get it back but not impossible! Lots of talking, rekindling, maybe couples therapy?

We all have off days/weeks but this feels different.I cant put my finger on it.We did have sex last night but it was like to keep me quiet.
I did think of him having someone else but i dont think so.
Plus i offered to " service" him the other night.Usually he jumps at it but he said no.
Im going to have a chat tonight and see if i can get to the bottom of it.

past that's not true, there can be psychological or physical reasons for a man to go off sex without him finding it elsewhere.

Good luck having the chat with him later, I hope you can get to the bottom of it.

past that is utter nonsense. There are lots of things that can cause a man's sex drive to decline.

Well it turns out he has a cold and a sore throat.He came in from work last night in bits and went straight to bed.Hes been very busy in work and it just got on top of him.

Men do go off sex - either due to psychological stuff or hormonal issues/vit/min deficiencies. Get him a good multi vit and just have a good talk and go from there.