Male arousal - or lack of

[Shaftmesideways]

I have a lovely boyfriend but no matter what I do I can't get him properly aroused. There I was joyfully licking his balls (something which has never failed to arouse other men I've been with) & did his cock stir? No! We kiss quite passionately, try just about everything, he does great oral etc but I just can't seem to get him hard. He's 51, quite fit & doesn't drink or smoke. He doesn't want to take viagra, preferring to work on it 'naturally' but it just doesn't happen. Piv sex is really important to me. He's so lovely in all other ways I'd hate to split up over this but it is a dealbreaker for me. He always makes sure I have an orgasm but without that penis it's just not enough. What can I do?

It could be that he has low or very low levels of testosterone. If he doesn't have much body hair, it could signal the need for supplements. It might be an idea for him to see his GP.

he really needs to see his gp. It may be an indicator that something else is wrong. Diabetes blood pressure hormone imbalance etc. Get that sorted and the other may get sorted as well.

Yup, he has to go and see his GP.

Do you know if he can stimulate himself? Can he orgasm manually? ED is a passion killer... He needs to want help for it though.

He doesn't want to take viagra, preferring to work on it 'naturally'

OK, so what "natural" work is he doing on this issue?

Would he consider wearing a strap on?

Can he get an erection on his own?

DH often gives himself a crafty tug whilst he's working on me to get things going. It has slowed down as he's got older, is all.

Couldn't be doing with that tbh, was with someone who could fair enough produce erections constantly, but took forever to climax. Until I woke up and saw the Viagra packets all around, he was great giving me pleasure, but it was such hard work giving him pleasure that I used to dread sex. Putting 2 and 2 together, he was very hairless :S , he would barely ever climax without wanking himself off, so so boring for me

YY to seeing his GP. It could be indicative of circulatory problems, for example. Perhaps suggest he visits the doc because it might be a symptom of something else, rather than to get treatment for the erectile dysfunction?

Need to know if he can get hard at all before advising. It could be physical or psychological