I pee during sex :(

[Lollylola2]

I am dating having come out of a long sexless marriage. Not having had sex I didn't know I had a problem. Now I'm dating again & I've discovered I can't maintain urinary continence during sex. As soon as I start to relax to enjoy it (piv) my bladder sphincter must just let go because I pee myself. I'm really bloody upset about this. It's mortifying & it's happened with each new -ons / shagbuddy- partner I have. I almost never leak for a cough & I always thought my pelvic floor was ok. Clearly it isn't Will pelvic floor exercises really help? Has anyone else had this & actually cured it from pelvic floor exercises?

It's not just female ejaculation? Definitely pee?

Pelvic floor exercises may help, but it would be worth going to your gp and getting a referral to a physio.

I had similar issues and it was due to a prolapsed bladder, which can be helped by pelvic floors but I needed surgery in the end.

This happened to me after my first baby- I didn't do pelvic floor exercises, but I did become really careful about going to the loo before sex and that helped a lot. I know it's mortifying but I'm sure you're not stuck with it indefinitely.

My DP thought it was ejaculate and was actually quite pleased about it i didn't correct him

It's definitely pee. My gp's already checked my bladder & told me it's fine. Guess I'll have to go back again

Can you stop mid stream? May be worth giving that a practice for a while...I think, and I'm no medical person that you use the same muscles in a different way, so while your pelvic floor could be OK when you tense to cough/sneeze etc, never hurts to try other exercises?

Are you sure it's pee?

Sorry for the odd question but is it mid orgasm or close to climax? It could be your expeierenceing a squirt or gush like orgasm.

Ok this could be me. How do you know which it is? DP would think I've come but I'm not so sure. I feel like I flood the place.

The smell is a good indicator, it's hard because it can feel like you need to pee, if you try to stop mid flow and can't id say it's not pee. But female ejaculation

Female ejaculation is more watery than your usual vaginal juices, it does feel (and look) like you've pee'd. Try googling it and watch a couple of porn vids to show you. The smell is different to urine, and the orgasmic sensation is very different (for me anyway) than a clitoral orgasm which is much more intense. Female ejaculation is much more common than you think so that could be it. My dh and I only discovered he could do this to me when I was in my late 30's, and now can make me ejaculate (or gush) by stimulating my g-Spot, so it can occur with penetration. Hope you can find out what's going on, but if your ejaculating, many men find this hugely erotic, just need to be prepared with towels (and a good mattress protector!).

Have a big wee before sex so there's only a bit to come out. Your partner will probably hardly notice anyway but I know it's mortifying

Well you should be doing the pelvic floor exercises anyway to maintain good control. Every woman should.
It's odd that you pee during sex but not when coughing, so I join the others in asking if you are certain that it's pee.
For what it's worth, I get very wet during sex. It's not pee or so-called female ejaculation. I just lubricate copiously as soon as I start getting 'interested'. Could you be doing something similar?

sounds like you are experiencing a G spot orgasm which makes your squirt sex juices