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I'm not sure if this is a silly question or not...

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MonkeyOnTheCar · 09/07/2015 11:10

but I have only ever slept with my husband, he has only ever slept with me. 100% sure on this, he's never even KISSED anyone else. I have been starting a relationship with a female friend (with DHs permission) and I just wanted to ask if I should get an STI check before anything sexual happens? Or is it not needed in my situation? I'd like to be able to tell her conclusively there are no issues.

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HomeHelpMeGawd · 09/07/2015 13:16

If you have sufficient trust, you don't need an STI check under those circs. However, your female friend might, depending on her history...

Your love life sounds very intriguing!

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MonkeyOnTheCar · 09/07/2015 13:55

Thankyou. I didn't think I did but best to ask.

It's really not been upto now. I've been with him and monogamous for many, many years!

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HomeHelpMeGawd · 09/07/2015 14:29

I think what's intruiging is precisely that it's a big step away from where you've been thus far! I hope it goes really well for all of you

GinUpGirl · 09/07/2015 14:31

I don't think you need an STI test either? Good luck with your arrangement, I hope everyone involved stays happy.

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MonkeyOnTheCar · 09/07/2015 15:09

I've always been very drawn to women and openly class myself as bisexuality but never met anyone that I would feel comfortable taking the next step with, before now.

It's all very new and tentative but DH is very understanding of it and I just wanted to be prepared with answers if the situation arose.

Thanks for the replies!

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MonkeyOnTheCar · 09/07/2015 15:10

Sorry bisexual* (autocorrect )

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WingsofNylon · 09/07/2015 23:41

I think it is only fair to her that you get a test anyway. You might trust dh but it os unfair for you to take his word gor it.

velourvoyageur · 10/07/2015 11:49

Do people get STD tests before they sleep with new people. What if it's not planned?

have a fab time OP, I doubt you need to bother with the test but if it makes you feel at all better about things then get it done, not a silly thing to do.

WorldsBiggestGrotbag · 10/07/2015 11:51

velour I would always get one before unprotected sex with someone new.

gatewalker · 10/07/2015 11:58

Actually, I would do a test - just out of principle.

All the best for your new adventures!

Revolutionary · 10/07/2015 12:34

I'd get a test. I've had several this year. Its not embarassing and its only fair.

PoppyBlossom · 10/07/2015 12:37

Yep velour, if your active sexually then you should have tests. It's good to get them done just as a general mot.

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MonkeyOnTheCar · 11/07/2015 18:45

Thanks for the replies. We talked and are both getting tested for peace of mind for all involved.

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