To those of you with a DP/DH aged around 50, come and talk to me about sex.

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I am single aged 48 and dating. I've had partners in the last few years that have been around 12 years younger than me but have started dating men a couple of years older than me and in both cases. FLOP!

Is it just me and them or is this normal? Feeling a bit embarrassed about asking this but I really need to know if I've lost my touch and any remedies for the future.

hi eve (waves)

don't think that's normal tbh you've just been unlucky.

My exh is the wrong side of 50 and and whilst he didn't want sex with me there is clearly nothing wrong with his tackle as I suspected he was unfaithful and has managed to father dts since we split.

Samename was a bit of flop esp last thing at night and my rl friend is dating 55 year old and was complaining to me that he has the same prob and actually told her maybe they could just be companions!! She is currently reevaluating their relationship.

Since split with ex have dated/slept with 43 yr old and a 50 yr old and both had no probs in that area.

I suppose though the odds of erectile dysfunction would increase as men get older.

Either way it's their problem and no reflection on you. But a hard question to broach
when you don't know people that well.

I thought of mentioning to samename but felt at times it was so obvious felt that he should kick things off.

be interested to see what others say.

DP is 51, absolutely no problems there. However he is very sporty and healthy and always has been. I don't think it is inevitable at any age tbh, just depends on the man. I think quite a lot of younger guys have erectile problems, although those tend to be mostly psychological.

My DH is 20 yes older than me at 53, and whilst he always rises to any occasion he doesn't want sex that much, as much as I/ we used to 10 years ago. We do have a 3 YO though so maybe she is part of the reason too.

Men of this age are starting to get quite physically tired imo, esp if they are still working FT which in this day and age most are...

my dh is mid 50's...we have no problems in that area so I think you've just been unlucky. It's certainly not any reflection on you..

Thanks SCL, no-one else is replying. Guess I have been unlucky recently. It's a bit deflating, excuse the pun.

X posts, oh thanks some more replies.

I'm glad that I have just been unlucky tbh as I was starting to think this was normal amongst middle aged men. Also found Viagra in the bathroom of a platonic male friend of mine who is 48 and I know for a fact isn't getting any, so got even more paranoid that they need it just for themselves. Phew, I won't write off the older ones now.

eve I replied on other thread!

I think you have been unlucky. DH is 51 and there's certainly no problem there. We have a 2.6 yo DD with another due in March. Like Brahms' DH, mine is very fit & healthy and the lucky bastard looks a good 10 years younger than his actual age.

Rindercella, obviously no problem there then.

The recent one did look great for his age and I went out with him years ago so I remember everything rosy back then.

you have just been unlucky

no problems here

Definitely no problems here either, though remembering back to our dating days, we did have to take things slowly for a while.

I think that if a guy is older, he may feel under more pressure, and is more likely to have history, which can cause temporary problems, but which should disappear if he is in the right relationship with the right person. Security, reassurance, love etc all play their part in it, so maybe make sure that you are really keen on the person next time and be prepared to do some waiting/reassuring.