MIL is off to Manilla to stay for 2 weeks with a Phillipino wine waiter she met on a cruise ship.....

[DrNortherner]

She has been on 2 cruises. She met him on the first and fell in love....booked the 2nds one so she could see him again.

They speak/email every day and she is even planning on sponsoring him when he comes to England later this year to do an NVQ. He is always sending her gifts, and her to him. Se is besotted with him.

She was planning on a 3rd cruis in April, but he has said not to spend her money on a cruise and to stay with him instead.

She has bought herself travel guides to teh Phillipines and is booking her flights this weekend......

Dh and his bro kiond of washed their hands of their Mum yaers ago, keep in touch but at a distance IYKWIM as she is so earrtic and a crap Mum basically. However, SIL and I can hear alarms bells hear and think she is mad to travel alone to stay with him.

What do you think?

She is 65 and he is 40 btw.

I would just leave her to live her life, she is an adult.

My ex husband (and now dear friend) is engaged to a Phillipino woman he met whilst he and she were working in Singapore. He is now back in the UK and she cannot even get a visa to visit here, it is very hard for Phillipinos to get into the UK, so it is likey he has his own money if he wants to come here. Even if he married your MIL he wouldn't automatically be allowed to come here.

Why is it so hard for Phillipino's to come to the UK out of interest?

Do you know am am kind of at how my life is going from one extreme to the other - I am dealing with my Mum (we lost Dad last April) who is really struggling with her grief then on the other hand I'll be having a chat with MIl about using contraception when meeting up with Mr Fernando....

I know he is hardly a toy boy but at 40 he is younger than her eldest ds and the same age as my dh - her youngest son.

I am also LOLing at MIL saying she does not need to buy any new clothes when she goes to Manilla as she will take her Cruise wardrobe....she looks like an old contestant on strictly come dancing (all fake tan, sequins and gold lame)

LOL at the fake tan and sequins.Tell her to take a cardi-it can be very cold at night in Spring.