How do I cope with the lack of any sex in our relationship?

[helpsadoldme]

It has been 2 years now since he got ill.O k it isn't the be all and end all but I still have needs.

How to cope?

sorry to hear this- what kind of an illness does he have?

Affects many systems but started in prostrate.He and I still young well to me!

is it purely a physical problem then, due to the illness?

Yes,mainly,but a lot of other stuff,depression and the like

He sleeps downstairs.He has respiratory problems.

2 years ago we were a "normal" couple.Then bang and it all went pear shaped and it was a nightmare

oh that's tricky, helpsadoldme.

do you talk to each other frankly about it?

off to bed... it sounds like you need to talk this through.

i feel for you both x

Presumably the prostate issue means he can't have full penetrative sex with you but the pair of you should be able to have fun and give each other pleasure in other ways. At the very least, you should be able to be physically affectionate with each other. How does he feel about the lack of sex? Is he not interested in it, or is he unhappy? YOu do need to talk it through in a way that doesn;t sound like you are blaming him for having prostate problems which he presumably can't help.

Buy a vibrator?

this is not as flippant as it sounds.

If you don't have one it will at least give relief to one aspect of your need, whilst admittingly not dealing with the human contact/affection side.