I really need someone else's perspective on my life. I work FT and have a 2 yo who is in FT daycare. She goes to bed when I do so the only "me" time I get is my lunch break.
We used to have a pretty even split of the household chores but since DH got promoted 3 years ago he's opted out. His perception is that he pulls his weight but the evidence says otherwise. His job is the cleaning but the house is literally filthy.
He works 4 nights a week. There is no pattern. While I was on Maternity Leave he said he'd set his nights and not work weekends. Once I'd gone back full time I found out he doesn't consider either Friday night or Sunday night to be weekend and he has actually worked at least every other weekend in its entirety. The nights he works he does nothing in the house.
When he is here he is watching the TV or surfing the net. He spends his days off- alone in the house with everyone else at work/ school/ nursery- on what ever pet project has taken his attention (currently looking for a cheaper car) and the evenings watching TV.
I spend my evenings paying bills/ doing household admin (2 bank accounts and too many credit cards) and looking after DD, and my weekends grocery shopping, laundry, cooking etc etc.
I was really looking forward to this BH weekend to try to relax and recharge. As usual he is working. I've had DS's GF here which took up Friday. The ILs called Saturday and sat here all afternoon. Yesterday our neighbours made so much noise they woke DD up from her nap so I didn't get a break from her. Today I've managed to have 1/2 hour while she's napping.
I'm just so tired. He's supposed to finish work at 8am but rarely gets in before 9.30am. There's always some excuse about the traffic. Today is BH Monday so no traffic. He strolls in at 10am. "Got delayed", how convenient. He knows it annoys me but just keeps doing it. I threatened to leave him before DD was born if he didn't start making me and her his priority and he tried for a bit but now he's back to himself and work first. I don't think he's up to anything BTW, it's just a lack of consideration.
AIBU in my expectation, or is he?