How to keep things 'alive'

[sowhatis]

so what do u all do to keep things fresh and alive?

ive been married for 10yrs, things are far from exciting as like everyone, daily life with kids gets in the way.

there is an ex that i talk to now and again - normally as a symptom of life being boring - and i dont want to go down that road. it all stopped a few weeks ago as things were becoming to 'emotional' and it was more than a chat in the end.

so what can i do to put a spark into my marraige? me and dh have talked alot and i want to feel wanted - something he isnt very good at.

any help much appreciated

fizzfiend
can I ask what made you make that decision. I'm in pretty much the same place at the moment. I've spent the last month trying to talk to dh about how I unloved I feel because there seems to be no desire on his part, but it doesn't seem to make any difference. I've told him I'm being 'chatted up' by someone & wanted it to be him. I'm just not sure he realises that others find me attractive. I'm getting v close to someone I find v attractive & think i may need to make a decision soon. I love dh, & think he loves me but I don't want a platonic marriage - I think he does