at the end of my tether - cant cope anymore

[Broodymomma]

I just seem to have hit a point of no return with my relationship with dh and i think i want out. I have posted before about various problems and you guys have been great so I am hoping you will help me through tonigh as i feel i cant cope anymore.

DH and I had a minor row last night which he has escalated beyond belief. Today would have been his dads birthday but he died suddenly 3 years ago and i know thats got a lot today with him majorly overeacting but i cant go on being his emotional punchbag anymore. Since his dad died i have done everything in my power to support him and his mum and he has thrown it in my face. I am nightshift at the moment and had to leave for work last night with him shouting "just fuck off get lost" and then refusing my call last night. I only called as our son is poorly and i wanted to know he was ok and if im honest i did not think he would make such a deal out of a small row.

I came home this morning after my 12 hour shift and got up at 10am to see them both as he was taking ds to stay with his mum today and tonight so she was not alone. I went down and tried to give him a cuddle and he shrugged me off and again told me to fuck off. I walked away and went to our son who was visibly unwell. Only a cold but he is my baby and i worry about him. Anyway dh refused to talk to me so i left it as i did not want ds seeing us like that. As they were leaving bearing in mind what day it is and i want see them until tomorrow night now i tried again to hug him and said can we just let this go please - he was holding ds who i was saying by to also and he put his finger in my face shouted fuck off and then pushed me into the next room.

I cant take anymore and watching my poor childs face today when he seen that was too much. I texted him tonight and said - can you tell me how ds is please- he ignore it, i called him he ignored it. SO i ended up calling his mum who told me ds has been poorly all day with a tempterature. I have had to come to work again for another 12 hour shift and im sat here a wreck. I honestly dont know what to do anymore i feel so lost. Its a long night ahead with all this on my mind i cant believe he could be so cruel as to keep me from my son - he knows that would get to me.

Just had to talk.

[clam]

I hope you mean flats for him to move into, not you and DS.

[Broodymomma]

I know he would not go so yes ds and i would. I could not live with him if we split i just couldnt.

[blinks]

good- let us know how it goes for you...

try to stay calm and really think about what you're saying. try not to take control of how the conversation goes (ie take responsibility for it).

good luck!